Class 9/29/08 Notes
29/09/2008 10:03:00
Interpersonal Communication Some Characterisitics Usually involves only 2 people Quality or intimacy of the communication is a key issue More immediate than other types Quality of feedback is high It is fully transactional Physical proximity is a key Dialectics are present here High Quality Relationships What Makes an IP relationship high quality? Info about other person primarily psychological Dyad sets rules for relationship Role defined by personal characteristics Intimacy In IP Relationships A relational process in which we come to know the innermost, subjective aspects of another, and are known in a like manner Reciprocity is key as are: o Trust, commitment and caring Not characteristic of all marriages Many intimate relationships exist that are not marriages Dominance Need for control OVER others In dyads, one often has more dominance than the other, but not always Can coexist with affiliation
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Dominance in a relationship Can be complementary-one up, one down Symmetrical-both up or both down Parallel-combination, varies by topic Power Unlike dominance Power is given to you by others Cant get power unless others allow you to have it Example: Do what I want, or Im leaving dominance or Chilling power Effect Idea that person with greater power encourages other person into silence Relational De-escalation When conflict is repeatedly ineffective, relationships may deteriorate
Sudden
Frequently, one party decides to end it before the other We call them the leaver and the left Can happen suddenly o Called sudden death Or gradually o fading away Death vs Fading Away Suddent death can happen due to: o 3rd parties o other major changes: job, school fading away happens due to many relational factors o many involve poor comm.
Reasons for Dissolution Loneliness IN the relationship Decrease in stimulation/interest Third party Relational changes (psychological, behavioral) Undefined expectations Financial Inequitable distribution of rewards and costs Ducks Stages Duck focuses on what the individual is doing during relational deescalation Intrapsychic-self becomes aware Dyadic-inform other person Gravesdressing final break-up, tell the social story Proto-Typic Behaviors in De-Escalation Stop expressing intimate feelings Disagree about attitudes, opinions Argue about little things Verbal fighting and antagonizing Spend less time together Avoid partner in public setting Trial rejuvenation Talk about breaking up Become interested in others
Start seeing others Final break up