Unformatted text preview: Open Letter Assignment Dear Victoria, Going through my daily read on CNN.com, I came across an article titled “Too Much Too Soon?”. I don’t usually butt-‐in to parenting much simply because I am not a parent myself. However, since you are a mother looking for the best possible way of raising your 4 year old, I hope my input of opinions, as an amateur, might be of some use to you. Like I said, I don’t claim to be any expert in parenting nor did I ever even experience the full parenting life, but two factors have inspired me to write this to you. So first, I would like to defend myself for I do know what it’s like to deal with unhappy toddlers. Though not a daughter, I do have a younger sister. She is almost 10 years younger than me, 9 years and 5 months to be exact, and with my parents always gone at work, I played the role of a mom. I had my hair pulled almost to the state of going bald, and I remember buying earplugs in hope that I will not lose my hearing from the cries of my sister about everything, and I mean everything. Don’t even get me started on weekday mornings. Getting her and myself ready for school was always like a huge cat fight. For some reason, it was always a surprise to her every morning that she had to brush her teeth everyday. What I am trying to say is that I am not completely clueless on parenting. It is freaking hard. And a lot of the times I had seriously contemplated that I was living with a German-‐ speaking monkey. So I get you and you are not alone to think this, kids are crazy. This brings me to the second reason on why I write to you. Although, I think my sister can be a narcissistic crazy monkey, nevertheless, monkey or human, I love her. You are a mother and I am so sure we have this feeling in common. But here’s the problem. People will tell us, “Your child still can’t spell her own name? Everyone in her class can write so well they might as well write a book!”. They might even criticize us by saying “man control that child she has no manners whatsoever”. Sooner or later, they’ll have us thinking that our child is “a child only a mother can love”. Well guess what, bullshit poop. Who are they to tell us anything about what our child needs and lacks? Just because she doesn’t want to do her creative writing does not mean she is ill. The fact that my sister likes to take a break from reading doesn’t mean she has ADHD. Her preference of riding her bike over doing math homework should not lead to the fact that she needs medication. I don’t know about you, but from a personal experience, a kid brings home imaginary friends that we are forced to talk to. They will go to war with vegetables in the middle of a Denny’s Restaurant. And all the while, they don’t care who is looking and don’t give a shit poop about what others think. So why do you? Why is the acceptance of society so important? Why should kids be restrained so much and trained to be robots? They are not kids if they act like adults. Don’t get me wrong, the fact that your child has violent anger tantrums, gives you bite marks, and chooses to sleep only 4 hours a night is bad. However, that is a parent’s job to fix not a job for a capsule with 20 milligrams (mg) of Ritalin. I must
remind you that your child was not born into this world for your own comfort nor
are they here to be treated as a science experiment. I get it, parents are humans too and being only human, we have our limits. We are limited on energy, patients, and coffee; something a kid would never understand. Pills would be the easy way out and sometimes, desperate for the right reason to give them to the children, we would talk to “experts”. At first one would think, yeah, people with degrees, they know the best. However, the reason why I know that medication is wrong is from the evidence of the side effects that these pills have on children. A child’s body is a growing human body. They are sensitive to the outside world, and are more fragile since everything inside is still trying to develop even after leaving the mother’s womb. Giving artificial (AKA unnatural) ingredients, to “stabilize” their mental minds might cause even more damage for it might confuse their nerve cells. That might explain the “kids under 12 consult with doctor” medication labels. I may not know much about parenting for I am no parent. But if we medicate in order to obtain a strict “social responsibility”, I can honestly say that I fear for your child’s future. Again I will stress ...
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