4-20 - Fair Fighting I. Basic skills A. Editing –...

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Fair Fighting I. Basic skills A. Editing – watching what you are saying. 1. take a pause – every so often. If you do the it can reduce the intensity. 2. remember, “words hurt deeply” – Words do hurt! Bruising in the inside not on the outside. “Do I really want to say this?” 3. discuss what you’ve thought about – Think ahead of time. Determine problem behavior – what is the fight about? What do we want to talk to them about. It controls it. Decide the value of the fight – is it worth fighting about? Decide if the person can change – can they change? Why raise the issue if they can’t change. Why fight about it if they can’t change. Describe the problem (problem, feelings, outcomes) Here is the problem. You can argue the behavior not the feelings. If its an important issue but talk about the feelings. Consequences of change – You can get them to change but they can be different about it. Is the consequence worth it. B. Leveling –
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This test prep was uploaded on 04/16/2008 for the course CMS 315M taught by Professor Daly during the Spring '07 term at University of Texas at Austin.

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4-20 - Fair Fighting I. Basic skills A. Editing –...

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