Research Paper - Kedlyne Demosthene Professor Wood English 102 May 9 2016 Formal Paper#5 Trauma Part 1 Grief Kills the Soul With a few exceptions most

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Kedlyne Demosthene Professor Wood English 102 May 9, 2016 Formal Paper #5 Trauma Part 1: Grief Kills the Soul With a few exceptions, most humans are born physically the same. What makes us different from each other is our brain. Our brains determines our personality and it also measures the capacity we have to cope with traumas. Traumas also makes us who we are. The happy and fun loving girl can easily turn cold and withdrawn from society because one of her parents died. The funny and playful boy can turn stern and solemn when he returns from war. In Preparation for the Next Life written by Atticus Lish the main characters, Zou Lei and Skinner, both experience trauma which pulls them together and help each other cope better. Zou Lei, a Chinese Uighur and an orphan of the desert, migrates to New York for a better life. Skinner a war veteran comes to New York, which doesn’t really seem like home anymore, grieving from the loss of his best friend develops PTSD and an alcohol problem. In Preparation for the Next Life Lish explores trauma within the two main characters Skinner and Zou Lei; the author proposes the
Kedlyne Demosthene two outcomes that comes from untreated trauma, suicide or alienation from society throughout the rest of one’s life if goes untreated. In Preparation for the Next Life Zou Lei suffers “trauma in contemporary life” which is a result post 9/11 that many people suffer because the ongoing war against terrorism. Zou Lei also suffers from the trauma of losing her father in the war. Zou Lei, once a happy child, reflected her parent’s attitude and exuded happiness and curiousness. Once her father goes to war Zou Lei’s mother starts to worry about if he’s ever coming home again. Zou Lei then reflects her mother’s natural state of worrying at all times. Later on in the novel when Zou Lei’s father dies, her mom is devastated. Zou Lei then goes into this deep depression where she develops anxiety. In the book Trauma edited by Shoshana Ringel, Ringel explains, “The child is naturally dependent on the parent for continuous support and assistance in negotiating the course of development. However, in many instances, the surviving partners, owing to that person’s own preoccupation with the loss, may be less available for the child to lean on” (Ringel 48). When two people raise a child they have the lucky chance to lean on someone when they are stressed, depressed, or even mourning a death. When one parent isn’t feeling well the other parents steps up so that the child barely notices. It is important to work as a team so that you shield the child from any stress or burdens the real world can create. When the child only has one parent and the parent isn’t emotionally well enough to shield the child from life’s burdens the child feels the weight of the world too. When the child’s parent dies, the other parent’s job to be strong and show the child that life goes on and that they can lean on each other. When the parent isn’t strong enough and the child leans on them, they will collapse. That’s exactly what happened to Zou Lei’s family.

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