Chapter 6 OverviewLove, both as a feeling and a behavior, is essential for human survival. Love for oneself, or self-love, isalso essential; it is a prerequisite for loving others. Love is different from friendship, which has eightcomponents according to Davis (1985). Love includes the characteristics of friendship plus sexual desire,priority over other relationships, and caring to the point f great self-sacrifice. Love is an elusive conceptand complex phenomenon, and definitions of love vary across different social contexts. Love ismultifaceted, is based on respect, and is often demanding. It is generally agreed that respect and caringare the common denominators of loving relationships, and it is important to differentiate between sexualarousal (or lust), sexual desire, and love, especially romantic love.For love to survive, key words are caring, intimacy, commitment, and change. Many concepts oflove include caring. All definitions of intimacy emphasize feelings of closeness. Commitment refers to aperson’s intention to remain in a relationship no matter what happens.There are numerous theories of love; none of these is definitive, but all of these perspectives helpus to understand the various dimensions of love. Biological perspectives maintain that love is founded inevolution, biology, and chemistry. Psychological and sociological perspectives claim that culture isresponsible for expressions of love. Attachment theoryposits that our primary motivation in life is to beconnected with other people. Despite the popularity of attachment theory, there are some serious flaws.