IPC notes - IPC notes 9/28 David Myers (2002). The Pursuit...

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IPC notes 9/28 David Myers (2002). The Pursuit of Happiness Scientific study of factors determining happiness o Do increases in wealth increase happiness? NO Myers findings: 1) once people have basic needs met (sufficient food and water, clothing, shelter, safety), and have a meaningful activity to occupy their time, additional wealth has no effect on happiness 2) across 170,000 people in 16 countries, no consistent trend for affluent to be happier 3) Since 1950’s average affluence in U.S. has doubled. Depression has increased 10x and teen suicide rate tripled. 4) Most important determinant of happiness? Satisfying relationships with friends, family, romantic partners and co- workers. DEFINING IPC Interpersonal communication - a dynamic form of communication between two or more people in which the messages exchanged significantly influence their thoughts, emotions, behaviors and relationships Four defining characteristics 1) dynamic 2) transactional (both are co-creating meaning 2 person) 3) dyadic 4) impact Changes thinking, feeling, etc. things different after than they were before Martin Buber (1965): Human existence is fundamentally one of separation and distance. Although we can never lessen the distance, we can make it seem “thicker” or “thinner” depending on how we communicate with others. Two modes of communication (Buber): a. I-it: orient and communicate toward others as objects (“position- centered”) not viewing others as unique individuals. b. I-thou: orient and communicate toward others as unique individuals, embracing similarities and accepting and respecting differences (“person-centered”) 9/30 PRINCIPLES OF IPC 1) IPC conveys both content and relationship information Content- the meaning of words you exchange Relationship - indicators of how you view the bond between you (especially and power)
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Ex. Mara comes up to the bar where Steve is & says “I was trying to decide if we are going to have an affair.” *know the difference between verbal/non-verbal 2) IPC can be intentional or unintentional Actions can be seen as communicative even in you don’t intend them to be. Go to his office and he looks at his watch, conveys to me that he’s wanting to be done, when he isn’t trying to communicate anything When people make a good point that Steve hadn’t thought about, he sometimes laughs. This isn’t to be mistaken with laughing AT them, but it sometimes is. People will say something if they notice you aren’t smiling (mostly women) 3) IPC is irreversible-cant take it back Implications of irreversibility The communication and relationship choices you make directly determine the personal, interpersonal and relationship outcomes that will follow. Choices => communication => outcomes
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This note was uploaded on 03/19/2008 for the course COM 225 taught by Professor Morrison during the Winter '08 term at Michigan State University.

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IPC notes - IPC notes 9/28 David Myers (2002). The Pursuit...

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