Fam Relationship Exam 2.docx - Love and commitment Companionate love-> friendship love the affection and tenderness we feel for those with whom our

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10/05/17Love and commitment Companionate love --> friendship love“... the affection and tenderness we feel for those with whom our lives are deeply intertwined”Based on a deep sense of friendshipInvolves companionship and enjoyment of shared activities or interestsBuilt on a foundation of admiration, trust, and respectSex is less intense and plays a less central role for companionate lovers Women report higher levels of companionate loveWhat makes a marriage last?“My spouse is my best friend.”“I like my spouse as a person.”Neural and hormonal level-Activates the areas of the brain associated with caregiving -Tied to vasopressin and oxytocin Love over time Passionate love tends to decrease over timeCompanionate love increases over time because it relies on intimacy processesAt least initiallyBoth decline over the course of marriageDoes not decline with ageCan we predict relationship longevity?Interdependence Theory
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-Satisfaction-DependenceSatisfaction-Outcomes >Comparison Level (CL) = Satisfaction-Getting what, and more than, you expectDependence-Outcomes >Comparison level for alternative (Clalt) = Dependence-Degree to which one relies on a relationship for outcomes-Can needs be fulfilled by other interactions?-I.e. Katie WrightOutcomes - rewards v. costsGoodness of outcomes Calculating SatisfactionCalculation Dependence^ The same line Commitment-The subjective experience of dependence-Closeness, attachment, loyalty, obligation-Intention to remain-Long-term orientationbetterworseoutcomesComparison level
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The investment modelSatisfactionCose v rewards = outcomesExperiences (CL)Outcomes >CLAlternativesOther potential partnersSpecific or generalNo relationshipInvestmentsIrretrievable resourcesChildren, house, $$$Joint social networksTime, emotions Jerica Lecturing - Relationship Cognition:SATALTINVCommitment-Stay/Leave behavior-Perspective taking-Accommodation-Derogation of alternative-Willingness to sacrifice-Illusions/perceived relationship superiority-Fidelity
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What is relationship cognition? Cognition - the mental process of knowing, including awareness, perception, reasoning, and judgment.Implicit Theories of Relationships:Two mindsets that we can hold - 1.Destiny (Fixed)2.Growth (relationships get better with time)Destiny mindset - 1.Potential partners are either right or wrong2.A successful relationship is mostly a matter of finding the right partner3.Relationships that do not start off well will probably fail.Growth mindset - 1.The ideal relationship grows over time2.Obstacles can make love even stronger3.A relationship succeeds through hard work and resolution of incompatibilities.
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