HDF 304 Exam 2 (this is amazing thx) (you’re welcome :))
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Companionate Love (Friendship Love)
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Companionate Love:
The affection or tenderness we feel for those with whom our
lives
are deeply
intertwined
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Based on a
deep sense of friendship
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Involves companionship and enjoyment of shared activities or interests
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Built on a foundation of
admiration, trust, and respect
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Sex is less intense and plays a less central role for companionate lovers
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Women report higher levels of companionate love
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What makes marriage last?
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“My spouse is my best friend.”
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Men are more likely to report this than women due to shrinking social
networks with age
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“I like my spouse as a person.”
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People who are happy in their long term relationships emphasize companionate
love over passionate love
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Neural and hormonal activity
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Activates the
areas of the brain associated with caregiving
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Tied to vasopressin and oxytocin
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Vasopressin - linked to blood pressure
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Oxytocin - linked to caregiving, bonding
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Love over Time
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Passionate love tends to decrease over time
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Companionate love tends to increase over time
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Relies on intimacy processes
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However, both tend to decrease over the course of a marriage
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Not based on age
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Companionate love decreases more slowly
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Commitment
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Interdependence Theory
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Wants to understand whether people are satisfied and dependent in their
relationships
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Satisfaction: Outcomes are GREATER THAN OR EQUAL TO comparison level -
getting what or more than you expected
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Calculating Satisfaction
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Ratio between things that are rewarding in relationships vs
things that cost you
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Costs: different interests, jealousy, fighting with partner
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Calculating dependency
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Highly dependent: Thinking that your relationship is the only
one for you, nothing else
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Lowly dependent: Thinking that if your relationship doesn’t
work out, there are always more out there
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3 persons experience the same rewards and outcomes
the comparison level is different
satisfaction is the only thing changing
Some are happier than others and they have the same
outcomes
Given the placement of the expectations, people can
have the same amount of satisfaction even if their
outcomes and comparison level differ.
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Rewards and costs are relative
Satisfaction = Outcomes > Comparison Level (CL)
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Getting what, and more than, you expect
Compare our outcomes to our comparison levels for alternatives
Alternatives: elsewhere or being single
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Dependence: Outcomes are GREATER THAN OR EQUAL TO comparison level for
alternatives
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Calculating Dependence
Comparison Level 1
Outcome Level 1
Not satisfied
Outcome Level 2
Comparison Level 2
Satisfied
Dependence = Outcomes > Comparison Level Alternatives (CLalt)
Degree to which one relies on a relationship for outcomes
Can our needs be fulfilled by other interactions?
