Class Notes Exam 2.pdf - Chapter 4 Families Is there Emotional Distance Between Teens and Parents \u200bContrary to stereotypes adolescents and parents

Class Notes Exam 2.pdf - Chapter 4 Families Is there...

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Chapter 4: Families Is there Emotional Distance Between Teens and Parents? Contrary to stereotypes, adolescents and parents usually get along very well. Most teens Feel close to parents Respect parents judgment Feel loved by parents Respect parents as individuals No systematic studies demonstrate that family problems are any more likely to occur during adolescence than at other times in the life span Most research indicates that among that 25% of teenages and parents who report having problems, about 80% had problematic relations during childhood Unfortunately, parents who believe in the stereotype that adolescents are difficult are more likely to have more negative relationships with their adolescent Known as a self - fulfilling prophecy An expectation that is realized because parents act in ways that make it happen The Generation Gap: Fact or Fiction? - Most people believe that adolescents and adults hold different values and attitudes, a phenomenon known as the Generation Gap, and that this is a constant source of parent-adolescent conflict (PAC). - This is not the case - Parents and teens have similar beliefs about fundamental values and attitudes (religion, work and education) - When there ARE sharp differences in opinion, they tend to revolve around matters of personal taste ( style of dress, music preferences, leisure activities), which is more transitory and subject to peer influence. What do Parents and Teens Fight about? Mundane Issue: curfews, leisure time, activities, clothing, cleanliness of their rooms… According to Smetana (2000); a major contributor to PAC is the fact that teenagers and their parents define the issues of contention very differently Parents view many issues as matters of right and wrong - not necessarily in a moral sense, but as matters of custom or convention Adolescents, in contrast, are likely to define these same issues as matters of personal choice
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Why do Parents and Teens Fight about? Rebels with Cause Contrary to stereotype, adolescents rarely rebel for the sake of rebel Accept parents’ rules when they agree that the issue is a moral one Whether to cheat on a test Less inclined to accept their parents’ authority when they view the issue as personal What to wear to a party Rather than resisting all of their parent’s rules (the stereotype that many people have of teenagers) adolescents draw distinctions between Rules that they think their parents have a right to make (safety) Rules that they think are out of bounds (personal choice) Ex: having to let their parents know what time you will be home after going out versus having to keep your bedroom orderly Violation of Expectations : Collins (1990) term that describes changes in children’s and parent’s expectations for each other during adolescence.
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