Chapter 7 - Chapter 7: Love & Intimacy How important do you...

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Chapter 7: How important do you think love and the ability to form loving, caring relationships are for our emotional and physical health? What is Love? 0. How much do we really know about love? 1. Are there different, separate kinds of love? 2. Does love really grow? 3. Is love different at 15 than at 50? 4. What is the relationship between love and sexuality? 5. Why are we attracted to certain types? 6. Why do we always fall in love with the wrong people? The Forms and Origin of Love 7. Romantic love – passionate love, obsessive love, infatuation. 0. sexual desire, 1. passion 2. physical attraction, 3. elation 4. idealization of romantic partner The Forms and Origin of Love Colors of Love (Lee, 1974, 1998) 8. Based on research 9. Six basic ways (“colors”) to love 10. Love styles are independent 11. Lovers with compatible love styles will be happier with each other than incompatible styles 6 Colors of Love Eros: romantic lover. Ideal not real Colors of Love (Lee, 1974, 1998) 12. Manic and ludic – poorer psychological health 13. Storge and eros – higher psychological health 14. More socially acceptable 5. Men –eros or ludus styles; 6. Women – agape 15. Less socially acceptable 7. Men – to have agape; 8. Women – ludus Love Triangles (Sternberg, 1998, 1999) 0. Love: three elements that combined produce 7 different types of love 1. Three basic elements: 0. Passion 1. sexual desire and physical attraction; part of romantic love 2. Intimacy 3. connection and feelings of closeness; an emotional investment 4. Commitment 5. to love in the short term; to maintain that love in the long term Love Triangles (Sternberg, 1998, 1999) 16. Love changes as we mature 17. Different forms of love may be experienced within the same couple throughout time Can We Measure Love? 18. Scales have been developed to measure love
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9. Measure something strongly associated with love 19. Attachment (Rubin, 1970, 1973) 10. Measure aspects of relationships 20. Relationship Rating Scale 21. Passionate Love Scale 22. Most scales measure romantic, not companionate love Theories: Where Does Love Come From? 23. Behavioral Reinforcement Theories 24. Cognitive Theories 25. Physiological Arousal Theories 26. Evolutionary Theories 27. Humanistic Theories 28. Psychoanalytic Theories Behavioral Reinforcement Theories 29. We love because another person reinforces positive feelings in ourselves 30. Positive/rewarding feeling in the presence of another makes us like them, even if the
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Chapter 7 - Chapter 7: Love & Intimacy How important do you...

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