COM 102 assignment 1 - Katherine Vargas Dr Pillion Communications 102-3001 Think Pieces Reflections on IPC 1 In the article “ All My Exes Live In

COM 102 assignment 1 - Katherine Vargas Dr Pillion...

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Katherine Vargas Dr. Pillion Communications 102-3001 Think Pieces: Reflections on IPC September 26, 2014. 1. In the article, “ All My Exes Live In Texts: Why the social media generation never really
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breaks up,” Maureen O’Connor makes very valid attempts on demonstrating why people in the dating world of today never really cut ties with their former lovers. Some of the reasons being, according to O’Connor, are that we are freer about sleeping around, blurring sexual boundaries and of course the fear of commitment granting us an array of endless possibilities by simply never shutting the door behind us. It used to be that after a disarrangement of a love once had, the two would either end things and cut each other off rather brashly or ended things amicably and in most cases, never to be seen or heard of again. However, the world has since evolved- in the midst of that our dating histories have expanded and our availabilities suddenly opened. Social media has successfully allowed us to connect with one another and even when clicking the unfriend button seems so easy, the network mocks us and questions our certainty. A small window suddenly pops up and asks “Are you sure you want to remove so and so from your friends list?” You scoff at it slightly but then you wonder whether that will make you look immature or what if you want to harmlessly glance at their profile on some drunken occasions and then you remember that awesome vacation coming up and you want to upload all the photos of you having fun, without them. Most of the reasons for second guessing ourselves are proof of facework, which is an ongoing interest with maintaining a certain image and depicting it to the world and to our exes that we are in fact mature, sensible human beings and able to bounce back from a break up proving that we still have it. Even months after the break up, our online image is all we might have to present to our exes, therefore, we engage in impression management by carefully orchestrating what good looking images we upload and are tagged in, what events to check-in at and feel-good status updates we post. Not that our online profiles revolve around proving a point to former lovers but it is an added bonus. After all, a social media friendship is a form of an electronically mediated communication (EMC) in which we can also engage in
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nonverbal cues by simply liking a picture, we communicate to the other person that we think they look good, without the added fear of rejection or awkwardness of face to face communication. O'Connor states that “exes are now a part of the permanent present,” because
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