Andrew WinningI picked to summarize two advice columns. The first advice column I’m going to summarize is by Carolyn Hax. The topic of this advice column is called “ A wife seeking affection faces a Tough Conversation”. Communication is key in any relationship especially a romantic one. This advice column correlates to chapter one which is interpersonal communication. The chapter talks about how we have a hierarchy of needs in our daily lives, andonce they’re met we look for other more profound ones. The first hierarchy of needs are physicalsuch as air, food, and water. Once these are met we look for safety such as protection, and finallywe look for social needs. Social needs are addressed through emotional bonds with others, and that is what’s lacking in the wife’s’ relationship. The husband isn’t using the second characteristic of competent in interpersonal communication, which is causing their relationship to suffer. He should be showing her the affection she desires on a consistent basis rather than doing whatever he is doing instead. All of this could be resolved if the couple talked and understood each other. The lack of affection and interpersonal communication between the two have caused the wife to feel lonely and insecure and not protected. As I stated in the previous sentence protection is one of those needs each person needs to be fulfilled. Therefore, it causes an immense amount of strain on this couple’s marriage. In the article, she talks about how she tries to talk to him about more affection and communication, but if your partner won’t buy in andlisten to the requests it does no real good. Just like in this woman’s circumstance they will listen and do it for a while but it will never last. Some people just require a different amount of love and affection than others. All people aren’t compatible in the end. Overall, I think they gave goodadvice it’s always better to confront your feelings than leave them bottled up. I also agree with
her in that leaving him wouldn’t be a blindside because she’s discussed their problems multiple times in the past.Carolyn Hax: A wife seeking affection faces a tough conversationBy Carolyn HaxAdvice columnistSeptember 23Adapted from a recent online discussion.