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●Relationship Cognition○Cognitive accessibility - mental process of knowing, including awareness, perception, reasoning, and judgement ○Bottom-up versus Top-down processing-■bottom-up●perceptions guided by stimulus●input comes from outside. ■Top down ●perceptions guided by perceiver●existing mental representations shape how we view the world ●Input comes from inside the perceived○Relationship example of top down:■how does mood affect how you perceive your relationship? ■How does your personality affect it?■These internal states guide the perceptions of the relationship ●Mindsets—Implicit theories of relationships○What are they?■mindsets we can hold in relationships○1. Destiny (fixed) :■potential partners are either right or wrong. ■A successful relationship is mostly a matter of finding the right partner.■Relationships that don’t start well will fail. ■“You found that one person, ONE, that you are meant to be with” ○2. Growth: ■the ideal relationship develops over time. ■Obstacles can make love even stronger. ■A relationship succeeds through hard work and resolution of incompatibility.■Associated with more relationship maintaining behaviors ○What would each predict○you can have both mindsets
■fate brought people together but then it is up to them○Destiny v. Growth: mindsets are flexible and can change over time ●Being Single○Why are there more single people today?■110.6 unmarried adults (45.2%) ■four possible reasons there are more single people today: ●demographics○97 men for every 100 women in the US○men die quicker than women●economics○better career and earning potential for women.○Some feel that can’t afford marriage ○don’t have to depend on men like in the old times●technology○BIRTH CONTROL○don’t have to wait until marriage to have sex for fear of getting pregnant ●culture ○sex outside marriage OK○marriage no longer means that you are becoming an adult ○order of priorities like education and career first○Effects of being single-■still big stigma■but better connection with friends, parents, siblings, and neighbors, more community involvement ○Unmarried vs. unsingled■unmarried has a negative connotation and makes it seem they are less desirable or not a full person Bc they aren’t married ●Cohabitation○what is it?■unmarried partners involved in a close personal relationship who share living
quarters○Quasi-cohabitation versus Living Apart Together○Quasi ■when individuals spend most nights together, but maintain separate residences (lots of college relationships) ○Living apart together ■living in the same place with separate spaces for each person (separate bedroomsor splitting the house) ○Reasons people cohabit?■economic reasons■precursor to marriage○Is cohabitation related to worse relationship outcomes? When? Why?