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Unformatted text preview: Discussion Work in pairs. Discuss the quotations below. What do you think they mean? Which ones do you agree with? Which do you disagree with? Which do you find amusing? Love conquers all things.
Virgil Love is blind.
English proverb Marry in haste. Repent at leisure.
English proverb Reading When a girl marries, she exchanges the
attention of many men for the inattention
of one. Helen Rowland, American writer Marriage is like a dull meal with the
dessert at the beginning.
Henri, Comte de Toulouse—Lautrec Read these two opinions about divorce. Which one do you agree with more? lulia Casper — getting divorced for the sake of
the children The only surprising thing about divorce is-that
it doesn’t happen more often. What people
want from a marriage may be the same when
they get married, but, as we all know, people
can change. What he wants may be very different from
what she wants five years down the line. Very
often, men have the attitude of, "She looks
after me and she is there when I want her; but
l have my own life.” Women, on the other
hand, think, "He is my best friend; I want him
to share my interests, my emotions and my
life.” One or both of the partners begins to feel
trapped. They start to live separate lives, which
results in tension, arguments and battles,
which then also has a negative effect on the
children if there are any. 50, what is the point
of staying together? it’s better for children to
grow up in a relaxed, loving environment with
one parent than in a tension-filled home with
both parents. Of course it’s better to avoid splitting up — it
hurts everyone, especially the children - but if
a marriage is over, it’s best to accept the
situation and move on before more harm is
done. 16 Marriage — for better or for worse
0 Sue Hardcastle — staying together for the sake
of the children Too many people see divorce as the easy way
out. I admit that in some cases it may be
necessary — for example, if your partner was
physically or mentally abusing you. Getting
divorced should be absolutely the last option.
It’s not just a lifestyle choice. Part of the problem is that people seem to
have an impossibly idealistic view of marriage.
They expect love, romance and excitement to
fill their lives all the time. But the fact is,
married life is not always perfect love and
harmony. There will be arguments and
disagreements. It is boring at times and,
especially when children come along, it can
be hard work! You’ve got to be willing to make
the effort to make a relationship work. it is this
effort which makes marriage a rich and
satisfying experience. And what example is it to children if you
decide to split up? What message does it give?
"When things get difficult, you can just quit.”
it’s no surprise that people whose parents
divorce often get divorced themselves. How
can they believe in the possibility of a
permanent relationship if the people they most
trusted couldn’t do it? Taboos and Issues Who believes what? Mark the sentences below with ‘S’ if they are what
Sue says and ‘J’ if they are what Julia says: 1. People expect too much from marriage. 2. Children can experience negative things
in a bad marriage. 3. Children whose parents split up can find
it difficult to trust other people later in life. 4. Living with one parent can be better than
living with both. 5. You shouldn’t give up just because a
relationship is difficult. Do you agree or disagree with the
statements above? “If the police start asking questions, I shall just say
that you packed your things one night and left me.” Language Complete the text below with the correct form of these words:
last contest sign break split up break down work In the USA couples sometimes (1) . . . . . . . . a contract before they get married
called a ‘prenuptial agreement’, which puts in writing what will happen to their
money and possessions if the marriage (2) . . . . . . . . . It doesn’t surprise me that
some of these marriages don’t (3) . . . . . . . . long. Before it has even started, the
happy couple are already planning what to do when the marriage doesn’t
(4) . . . . . . . . . . And, of course, a prenuptial agreement only works if both
partners are reasonable. But what happens if one person doesn’t want to
(5) . . . . . . . . and (6) . . . . . . . . the divorce? Or what happens if someone
tries to (7) . . . . . . . . the contract? Well, what it really means is lots of work
— and money — for the lawyers! Do you think prenuptial agreements are a good idea? Would you have one? Discussion Work in pairs or small groups. Discuss these questions:
1. What experience do you have of divorce? Your own? Your parents? Other family members? Friends? 2. Can divorce ever really be amicable? 3. Research shows that the children of divorced parents are more likely to get divorced themselves.
Why do you think this is the case? 4. How easy do you think it should be to get a divorce? Which of these are you in favour of?
a. divorce on demand — whenever one party wants it.
b. wait for a year to see if the couple can get back together again.
c. compulsory counselling for six months before a decision is taken. 5. What do you think are suitable reasons for getting divorced? Consider these: He’s been unfaithful to me. We’ve just grown apart. Life is so boring. He hits me. She doesn’t sleep with me any more. I want my freedom back. We just have nothing in common. I just married the wrong person. It’s as simple as that! I H C 0 URFC‘IFF / Taboos and Issues Marriage — for better or for worse 16 ...
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- Spring '09