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Unformatted text preview: -1 Chapter 11: Close Relationships: Passion, Intimacy, and Sexuality What Is Love? 1) Passionate and Companionate Love Ÿ 2 different kinds of love: Passionate and Compassionate. Ÿ Passionate love (romantic love): strong feelings of longing, desire, and excitement toward a special person. (want to spend time together, affectionate, think about each other and feel joy from seeing each other, patterns suggest strong emotions). Ÿ PEA response: phenylethylamine- high levels (neurotransmitter) Ÿ Companionate love (affectionate love): mutual understanding and caring to make the relationship succeed. Calmer/more serene. Perceiving the other person as your soul-mate or special partner. (high level of mutual understanding and caring; commitment to make the relationship succeed.) Ÿ Companionate love not characterized by these elevated levels of PEA. 2) Love and Culture Ÿ PEA response suggests that passionate love involves more than cultural learning, although culture can work with or against the biochemical responses to love objects. Ÿ Debate: passionate love a western culture construct? Ÿ From the social constructionist view, cultural values and meanings have shaped personal feelings and changed the way people run their lives, and the cultural construction of love is an important case in point. Ÿ Cross-cultural work suggests that it’s not merely a product of western culture. Romantic love’s found everywhere. Cultural differences- forms and expressions of love vary, as does culture’s attitude toward passionate love. Ÿ Modern western culture had come to regard passionate love as an important part of life and view a life without it as being void or empty; unfulfilled. Ÿ Passionate love may be found everywhere, but how people experience it and how they regard it may depend on their culture. People are hooked into their cultural system, and the system can influence how they love. 3) Love Across Time Ÿ Companionate love may be harder to create than passionate love, which often arises without people trying to fall in love; more spontaneous. Companionate love is what makes a good marriage or stable, long-lasting relationship, but it takes sustained work & effort to build trust, intimacy, and other foundations of companionate love. Passionate love may be the most effective for starting a relationship; companionate may be the most effective for making it succeed and survive in the long run. Ÿ Skepticism: passionate love as the basis for marriage; temporary. If the relationship lasts, it tends to rely more on companionate love. A successful, long term relationship relies on making an effective transition from one kind of love to another. Ÿ Behavioral sign of decrease of passionate love; less sex. Not directly related to age....
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This note was uploaded on 04/03/2008 for the course PSYCH 280 taught by Professor Bushman during the Fall '08 term at University of Michigan.
- Fall '08
- Social Psychology