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Unformatted text preview: -1 Chapter 10: Attraction and Exclusion Attraction: refers to anything that draws two or more people together, making them want to be together and possibly to form a lasting relationship. Social acceptance: a situation in which other people have come to like you, respect you, approve of you, and include you in their groups and relationships. Rejection (social exclusion): being prevented by others from forming or keeping a social bond with them; the opposite of acceptance. The Need to Belong Forming bonds is a big part of human life, its vital to form and maintain some relationships, which involves getting others to feel and think positively about you. Belongingness as a Basic Need Most likely the need to belong is a powerful drive within the human psyche, and it affects people who are neither worried about survival nor urgently interested in reproduction. People today are descendents from ancestors who had a strong need to belong. Putting people first-humans get even our basic food and shelter from other people, so people who dont care about being with other people probably didnt live as well as those who formed strong social networks, and the need to belong helps make people want to form those networks. Full deprivation of interpersonal contact is extremely stressful for everyone. Ex: San Quentin prisoners in solitary confinement-talked down the toilets-couldnt communicate well, but it was worth it to hear another voice and know that theirs was heard. Internet-offers anonymity. Can form social connections without much risk of anxiety. Need to belong: the desire to form and maintain close, lasting relationships with other individuals. It drives people to affiliate, commit, and remain together, and it makes them reluctant to live alone. People form relationships at work and with neighbors relatively easily, and are hesitant to let relationships go even if they seem pointless. (reunions that more than likely wont happen. Lets just be friends etc. Avoid the reality that a social bond is about to be broken.) Reluctance to end bad relationships; breaking off relationships goes against our basic tendencies. Were designed to connect, not separate, even if the relationship is bad, theres a deeply rooted impulse not to terminate it. (abusive relationships) Tradeoffs: Testosterone- A Blessing and a Curse Found in men and women, though men have 9-10 times more. Most people, both men and women admire manly traits, and they look upon testosterone as a good thing. Its a mixed blessing. High testosterone men: more exciting, less reliable. Relatively restless-frequent interest in exploring new places and meeting new people, but it makes them less prone to stay at home and take care of their families. Makes people more willing to take risks. More likely to perform heroic acts-and criminal ones....
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This note was uploaded on 04/03/2008 for the course PSYCH 280 taught by Professor Bushman during the Fall '08 term at University of Michigan.
- Fall '08
- Social Psychology