Feb 11th - F eb 11th : Lecture Th ree types of talk and...

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Feb 11 th : Lecture Three types of talk and problem solving in relationships: Dialogue talk requires a shift: you have to get yourself under control so that you’ll stay in motive talk so that people can continue talking to you, as opposed to controlling the other person. It’s about managing yourself: U.E of dialogue: Understanding first : suspend any judgment. Take a breath, pause, and don’t say the next worst thing that comes out of your mouth. Emotional self-management : hot to cool feelings. You need to calm yourself physiologically. Shift the way your mind’s talking to yourself. Change your ego state Assumptions of dialogue talk: - Solve problem not save face: manage MYSELF not others - We BOTH have to change - My story is MY story: obvious only to me - You have YOUR story: obvious to you; and I can’t tell you how to think/believe or what to see
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- I have all the data only when I LISTEN to you - I clarify my meaning only: I never say “you don’t care” because that is making assumptions/criticism - How did WE contribute to this situation Dialogue style elements: - D escriptive language to explain situation - I -messages to tell my story
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This note was uploaded on 02/15/2010 for the course COMN 2311 taught by Professor Daltonkehoe during the Winter '10 term at York University.

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Feb 11th - F eb 11th : Lecture Th ree types of talk and...

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