Unformatted text preview: Psychology M176 / Communication Studies M116: Communication and Conflict in Couples and Families Intimacy Across the Lifespan Week 9, Lecture 2: REMINDERS: The review session for the final will be in this room next Wednesday. Course evaluations will be distributed at the end of the last lecture that day. The final itself will be in this room during the normal lecture time one week from today (June 4th). Beyond Young Adults Relationships are to humans as water is to fish. So far, we have focused on intimate relationships between adults. How does intimacy affect us throughout our lives? Children as Witnesses How much are young children aware of the relationships of the adults around them? Answer: they are incredibly sensitive.
Affected by conflict Affected by resolution or not See right through mixed messages Why Do Adult Relationships Matter So Much? Primary appraisals Effects on emotional regulation Secondary appraisals Effects on selfconcept Sensitization or desensitization? Experimental evidence Siblings Nearly 90% of us have siblings. For kids, conflict is more frequent in sibling relationships than any other relationship. Why should this be? Evolutionary approaches Differential treatment: the doll vs. book study Effects of Siblings Sibling relationships promote theories of mind. The benefits of conflict The false belief test Friendships The first voluntary relationship The role of shared imaginative play New source of working models of self and other Sociometric Testing How it works The four categories:
Popular Rejected Controversial Neglected Implications of these categories Adolescence The attachment transition Even 9 year old kids know what intimate relationships are like. By 6th grade, kids want relationships themselves. But big cultural differences. Adolescent relationships matter! Breakups in adolescence can trigger onset of major depression Consequences for pregnancy, STDs, violence Continuity with adult relationships Cohabitation Over 50% of married couples live together first. But most cohabitors do not go on to marry. Types of cohabitors:
Engaged or preengaged (46%) Coresidential daters (29%) Trial marriage (15%) Substitute marriage (10%) Longterm Relationships What happens to an intimate relationship over many years? Sex declines The Penny Jar story But negativity stays the same Positivity declines Satisfaction declines Intimacy in Later Life After 65, men are nearly twice as likely to be married than women. Why? Experiences with intimacy in earlier life have health and wealth consequences for later life. Older adults, date, cohabit, and remarry. Sexuality in Later Life Source: Lindau et al., 2007 Losing a Partner Men are at increased risk of depression; women are at increased risk of poverty. Is it easier if the death is expected? Does prior relationship make a difference? Does the death of one predict the death of the other? ...
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- Spring '07
- Psychology, Interpersonal relationship, later life, Communication Studies M116