Social Psychology General Outline
The following excerpt is from a real story taken from a book about contemporary intimate
relationships (Tales from the Front by Lavin & Kavesh, 1988). This excerpt is useful in
illustrating the main issues related to feeling, thinking, and behaving in a social context.
“…When Muffy met Jake, “the working-class guy”, her friends got very nervous. Muffy is a 28-
year old stockbroker and a self-described “snob” with a group of 10 close “snob” women friends. They’re
graduates of fancy business schools. All consultants or investment bankers. All “cute, bright, fun to bed
with, and intelligent,” according to Muffyd. They’re all committed to their high-poweredd careers, but
they all expect to mary someday, too.
Unfortunately, most of them don’t date much. In fact, they spend a good deal of time “lamenting
the dearth of “good men.” Well, lucky Muffy actually met one of those “good men.” Jake is a salesman.
He comes from a working-class neighborhood.d His clothes come from Sears.
He wasn’t like the usual men Muffy dated. He treats Muffy the way she’s always dreamed of
being treated. He listens; he cares; he remembers. “He makes me feel safe and more cherished than any
man I’ve ever known,” she says. So she decided to bring him to a little party of about 30 of her closest
Perhaps it was only Jake’s nerves that caused him to commit some truly unforgivable faux pas
..First of all, he asked for a beer when everyone else was drinking white wine. He wore a worn
turtleneck while everyone else had just removed the Polo tags from their clothing. He smoked…
“The next day at least half of the people who had been at the party called dto give me their
impressions. They all said that they felt they just had to let me know that they thought Jake “lacked
polish” or “might not be a suitable match,” Muffy says.
Don’t think that Muffy’s friends are jealous. Actually, they have been quite accepting of some of
the other men that she brought to their parties. Winston was a great favorite. “He got drunk, ignored me,
and asked for other women’s phone numbers right in front of me. But he was six-foodt-four, the classic
preppie, with blond hair, horn-rimmed glasses, and Ralph Lauren clothes” Muffy says.
So now Muffy is confused. “Jake is the first guy I’ve been out with in a long time that I’ve really