Fair_Fighting_(Revised_for_spr09)

Fair_Fighting_(Revised_for_spr09) - Fair Fighting I. Basic...

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8/31/10 Fair Fighting I. Basic skills A. Editing (Watch what you say) 1. Pause 2. Remember, “words hurt deeply” 3. Discuss what you’ve thought about Determine problem behavior Decide the value of the fight Decide if the person can change Describe the problem (problem, feelings, outcomes) Consequences of change
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8/31/10 B. Leveling (Reduce the intensity) 1. Be clear and specific 2. Watch assumptions intention vs. consequence 3. Avoid excuses 4. Be present focused 5. Don’t fear losing 6. Practice conflict reduction skills
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8/31/10 Establish Common Ground by: Setting Ground Rules Highlight Goals ”We both want to be fair to each other” vs. “I’m going to get what I want out of this” Emphasizing Commonalities Fractionate Reframe Conflict Reduction Skills
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8/31/10 Manage the setting Know what “sets you off” and learn to control those things Who gets more angry? -
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This note was uploaded on 08/29/2010 for the course CMS 07005 taught by Professor Daly during the Spring '08 term at University of Texas at Austin.

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