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Unformatted text preview: I I l 8 Relationship Messages with Traumatized Children I respect you I like you You are interesting and fun i will be honest with you I know what happened to you (or something about it) and I am not overwhelmed’t You’re ok now You are still a child I like you I will keep you safe (if I can) It is not your fault. I know you won’t believe this for awhile. I know about what happened to you and I respect and care about you Because of what you did (on our outing, etc) I are mad at you, butl won’t hurt you or leave you, and I still like you I get mad and control what I do about it. This is whatl do. You can be mean, nasty, really mad, not ' perfect, needy, seductive, soft and tender And I won’t hurt you, trick you, leave you )use you Maybe I am worthy of respect Maybe I am likable Maybe I am interesting and fun Maybe I can trust you Maybe I am ok, maybe lbs/he knows and still likes me I’m not so bad (damaged). - It is too my fault - I guess other people can like me and I can like myself Someone can be mad at what I’ve done and still like me. Someone can help me control my behavior without hurting or leaving me. This is how someone can have the feelings but not get into trouble I can act this way And be safe with my advocate Reiiitiouship Messages with 'l'raumatizcd Children Or let you hurtme, hurt ourself, hurt others, And 1 will still respect you, like you, take care of you I make mistakes and make amends and forgive myself You can make a mess of things, and with acknowledgement and restitution, be forgiven I like to take care of you, do nice things for you, teil you how pleased i am with you accomplishments, celebrate with you This is how I nurture myself - Your body is yours-valuable, strong, special, worthy of respect, worthy of care -’ There are boundaries which I have set for my body The spirit that resides within you is precious and powerful, and continues despite iife’s uncertainties My behavior can by controlled by my advocate. Maybe I can control it too. I am likable and worthy of care and respect even thoughl am not perfect Nice people make mistakes and can forgive themselves 1 can make a mess of things and can be forgiven and I can sometimes forgive myself I am worthy of nurturance It’s ok to nurture myself, and this is how you do it I own my body and can control it and take care of it It’s ok to have persona! boundaries, and this is how you keep them The spirit-inside me is precious and strong and iasts forever, no matter what ...
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