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Unformatted text preview: January 13, 2009 Interpersonal Communication o The (intentional) transactional process of creating shared meaning between two people with the goal of common understanding • T ransactional means that both parties are exchanging o While one person is speaking, the other people is thinking about what they are saying and listening and vice versa o You cannot have a communicate with yourself • Communication is a process o There are steps, it is a continual process, it is evolving and it is built on prior communication o You cannot rewind communication- once you say something, its out there and influences the relationship in some way • The tool that we use to create shared meaning is language o I t’s more difficult to communicate non-verbally (i.e. cultural differences) o I t’s hard to communicate when we don’t know other languages o I t’s hard to create shared meaning when you talk about frame of reference, or when someone uses a specific jargon (i.e. medical, law jargon) • All of our communication is goal-oriented o We want people to understand what we are saying; essentially, a common understanding o Understanding does not equal an agreement, and it also does not rule out deceptive communication Deceptive communication- even though we might be deceptive, we want to create a common understanding • When you talk about communication theory, some theorists are more intentional in their views, and some are unintentional o Intentional (i.e. marriage proposal, breaking up, job interview, asking parents for $500 for bills Three intentionality theories (all need to be present, and all need to increase, for intentionality to increase): 1) Risk- how much are you asking the other person to put on the line for you 2) Power- what are the power dynamics between the two people; if there is a power differential (if I am asking someone of greater power than I am), the intentionality will increase 3) Social Distance- if we are not that close with the person, then it increases; it decreases if we ask family or people who we are close to 4 Overall Contexts • Physical context- Where are you communicating and how does that influence your relationship? • Relational context- How do I act in this “type” of relationship? More personal: How am I allowed to act within this particular relationship? What are the rules? • Cultural context- The different groups we belong to and how you communicate with members of that group (i.e. family, sorority, etc) • Historical context- How have things been done before, in terms of tradition? How is this going to impact our communication? January 15, 2009 Myths of Communication 1. Communication is a cure-all • We can make it worse if we say the wrong thing • We think that if we want to talk about it, then the other person wants to talk about it as well • True in both the short term (let the other person think about it before addressing it) and the long term (all the talk in the world isn’t going to fix the relationship; ex. and the long term (all the talk in the world isn’t going to fix the relationship; ex....
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This note was uploaded on 09/29/2010 for the course BIO 1000 taught by Professor Dkdjs during the Spring '10 term at Abraham Baldwin Agricultural College.
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