***SUCCESS STORY*** "Dave, I gotta tell you man, your book was a God send.
.. I've got about 3
girls in my sites already. One co-worker, one my sister's room mate, and one a hotty at the gym. The
first two are in my hip pocket, no problem. The hotty at the gym however is driving me insane, man. I
keep thinking about her over and over and it's killing me! I haven't even said a word to her but I always
catch her looking at me out of the corner of my eye. I feel like a wuss for not just approaching her but
sometimes I get choked up on what to say dude! Anyways, I've got some ideas and I'm going to take
your friends for a month advice (meet as many friends as possible) advice to heart. Basically I wanted
to say thanks for your insight Dave and any recommendations on clever lines for the gym girl? :) J."
>MY COMMENTS: Glad you enjoyed the book. As far as the girl at the gym.
.. For most of us guys, it
doesn't happen very often that we catch a gym hottie checking us out. Most of us are either too dense
to see it, or too average to have it happen very often, or both. Here's the deal: If a woman is giving you
positive eye contact, you need to either 1) Go do something about it IMMEDIATELY.
.. or 2) Be so
confident and skillful that you don't need to do anything about it because you know beyond the shadow
of a doubt that it's in the bag. Something tells me you fall into category #1 and should have gone over
and started talking to her instantly. The longer you wait, the more of a wuss you look like, as a general
rule. You have about 5 seconds from initial positive eye contact to calm yourself and mosey over to
say hello. So you'd better get to it.
***QUESTION*** "-After getting the digits, How long do you like
to wait before e-mailing a girl? If she has no email how long do you like to wait to call? [Another
author] said call in 5-9 days, no weekends, for posture. do you agree? -Speaking of weekends, and
posture, when do you start making weekend dates? Do you think it matters? -I had a girl I like get
skittish on me BEFORE the first kiss (it never) happened. A little hair stroking and smelling and she
was out the door. ("Gotta Go, its getting late! " ) Ooops.
..Do I e-mail and joke w/ her about having
never seen a person leave my apartment so quickly, please try not to smell so good the next time you
come over? Or just pretend it didn't happen the next time I ask her out? I bet this is a common problem
>MY COMMENTS: You know, I've heard all the same "wait a few days to call
.." raps from various places. My personal experience is that if I email her sooner, I'll be fresher in
her mind and more likely to get together with her again. I know it goes against the general guy rule,
but this is what has worked best for me (and believe me, I've tried everything). As far as weekend dates
.. always have good posture (lol.
.. I had to say it). I went through a phase a couple of
years ago where I NEVER took women out on dates. I was single, and I met a whole bunch of