I've been getting a lot of emails lately asking me basically the same question, so I thought it might be a
good idea to devote an entire newsletter to the topic. The topic goes something like this: "I've started
dating a girl that I really like, but I've been to nice, needy, and available.
.. and now she just wants to be
.. what do I do to get her to like me?" With that said, let's go to the real emails with my
responses. ***Important Note: I have added a short audio clip of me talking about some of my ideas,
experiences and my book to they Double Your Dating website. Just go to:
...and at the end of the second page you'll find it just after the
"P.S." of the letter. Check it out.
***QUESTION*** "David, I have read your book, and found it truly
inspiring. But I still need some help in one area, and need a real fast response. My wife left in July of
last year, found out that she had been unfaithful, we divorced in September. I met a girl at work who I
fell head over heels for, I met her in town one night, we talked, I got her number, she got mine, she
actually called me first, we rode around a bit together and talked, we really hit it off, so I thought, well
a few weeks went by of her coming over, phone talking, etc.
..., we never went out on a actual date.
Some background on her.
..she has been in a bad relationship with a guy who cheated on her and really
got her not to trust guys, I guess, all her past relationships have ended this way. Anyway, just as I
thought things were going to move on, she told me she just wanted to be friends. Now I know that did
wrong by being abit needy, as you put it, that may have been the problem, though she says that I did
nothing wrong, just that she likes me just as a friend, well she got with this one guy and that only
lasted a month, she stilled called me and talked to me at work, and now she still calls, and she actually
came over the other day, but the friend thing is still being punctuated, and I'm just agreeing and telling
her that is fine, which it is, but man, I am in love with her, she is the women that I would spend the rest
of my life with. And she even told me at one time that I'm the type of guy that she would want to
spend the rest of her life with, oh it is f***ing me up. But I've been playing it as cool as I can and not
acting needy. Now, we are supposed to go eat dinner tomorrow night.
.. as friends, my question is, with
what I have told you, hope you gather my situation by what I have wrote, I hope you can give me some
advice as to what I should do or say to get passed this friend deal and get her back into getting close
again, I don't have any idea what caused her to push away, well yah I do, cause I was awful desperate,
but I was speaking honest. I'm the same type of guy you described yourself as. You know one who