[Note: This question starts with an interesting success story, and that's one of the reasons I chose it.
Because of this, I'm going to discuss two different points in this newsletter.
.. so enjoy!]
QUESTION*** "Dave, Date #1 was coffee. Date #2 was yesterday, and success came as a surprise.
Here's why. I understand the theory behind being cocky/funny, but from lack of experience, I couldn't
quite start doing it on date #1. Now, on date #2 (same cutie), I somehow managed to do it a bit where
opportunity arose. I also managed to avoid some direct questions, especially about work and family.
But she seemed a bit distracted and I didn't quite feel a connection building. Worst of all: a Voice in
the back of my head kept saying, "Man, you're just not doing this right; you're missing something;
you've got so much to learn; back to the drawing board!" However, I *just stuck to the method.* No
one overhearing us would have said, "This guy is funny as hell," but he would have said, "This guy has
a sense of humor and is confident." We ate sushi, then went to a movie (A Beautiful Mind). Suddenly
*she* started touching me while whispering comments. Afterwards, we got to kissing without even a
kiss test! The only hard part was to cut it short with a "hey, you're fast!" and leave while still on a roll.
THE WORD OF CAUTION to all fellow trainees: Don't listen to the Voice! Don't evaluate while on
the date. Don't worry. Just have fun. Stick to the method. Boy was I surprised when this cutie suddenly
was so warmed up I could smell the pheromones! NOW FOR MY QUESTION to you, Dave. As
practice, I answered some ten online personal ads, got two replies, but in both cases the girl dropped
the ball. I realized that I did not apply any cocky/funniness in the emails. Should I? How to do it
email? How is it different from in person? I'm unsure about the strategy here. C."
I'm really glad you wrote in, because you really hit the nail on the head and brought up points that I
have seen and dealt with a lot.
.. both in my personal experience, and when coaching guys in general. A