.. this has been a fun week! You wouldn't believe how much email I'm getting about the upset
NYC Fireman-Loving gal from last week's Mailbag fame. Or maybe you would. Almost all of the
feeback has been positive, but there are a few exceptions (one of which I've included here in this
.. from another woman). While maybe two or three people wrote in to disagree with my
perspective, there were quite a few that wrote to say "Great job David, you really put her in her place"
etc. I want to take a moment to make a couple of things clear before we get into the mailbag. 1) I don't
believe that all women are the same. Even though I sometimes sound like it because I tend to
generalize, I believe that there are some really wonderful women out there.
.. But in general, I think that
most women in our culture (I live in America) have certain socially programmed ideas and ways of
dealing with men. In addition to that, I'm also convinced that women are wired differently from birth.
and in such a way that causes a very complex set of drives, desires, goals, and even ways of dealing
with the world. I don't claim to be a relationship expert. I teach men how to be more successful with
women and dating.
.. not women and marriage. My perspective is that too many men who want a great,
fulfilling long term relationship wind up settling for one that's not satisfying.
.. just because they don't
know how to get any different or better. If you want to find a really exceptional girl to have a
relationship with, you're probably going to have to meet several dozen women to get to her. And by
mastering what it's taken me years to learn and figure out, you can get there a lot faster. And of course,
if you're at a point in your life where you just want to be free and single, and you want to meet a lot of
women, that's great too. It's your life, so you'd better do something to enjoy it! On with the mailbag.
***QUESTION*** "I have a great job, creative hobbies, well above average income, good health,
reasonable looks, community status, many friends, and a romantic and pleasant kind and gentle
personality. Published songwriter, author, poet, an overachiever perhaps in hobbies, hi IQ, no vices, no
smoking, no drugs, modestly religious. I live in a small ski and golf resort town in North California. I
also happen to be 5'6" tall. On 20/20 on TV they showed a program that revealed outrageous bias
against short people in hiring and romance (I don't want short kids! she said) and they could not beg
borrow buy or steal a woman to date a short guy. I this true, or am I just having bad luck in a small
town? Yes I'm on net, but the respondents tend to be 1000 miles away or just foreigners trying to get
citizenship. Any advice except "be patient" as friend tell me? F."
>MY COMMENTS: Before I answer
your question, I have to point out something.
.. I beg to differ with you on the "no vices" thing. You
like to talk too much about yourself! lol.