***QUESTION*** "ok here is the deal.
.. i'm 23, 5'7" and a relatively good looking and successful
fashion designer. i don't date to much, and because of my usually respectful mannerism i don't get laid
toO often and usually end up in that "gay friend" category. but i've kinda got my eye on a cutie who
works at a trendy clothing store in my hood. it initially was one of those things where we shared a
glace and did the whole "eye ball sex" thing the first time i came into the shop. i frequent this store
regularly to help promote and do some p.r. for a club night my friends are doing, (not to mention check
.. merchandise?) so i have actually spoke to her and got her name and even convinced her
to come out to the club a few times (on my guest list of course). the thing is i'm not very comfortable
about "macking" girls in clubs and try to avoid it at all costs, so my question is how do i go from
cheezy promoter guy dropping off flyers and free passes, to say.
.. getting her to come watch "videos"
at my place or even just a phone # for that matter? giving me a way to find out if she is single would be
>MY COMMENTS: I've included your letter for a couple of reasons. One is because I
want other guys to see that just because you're a young, successful guy that just happens to work in two
fields that should naturally lead to you be a BABE MAGNET, it always takes more than just a
.. it takes skills and knowledge as well. And, second, I want to answer your question because I
believe that there are a lot of guys out there who come into contact with a lot of women and would like
to know how to capitalize on their good fortune. Here's what to do: The easiest thing in the world to do
in your current situation is to say "Hey, do you have email?" Most people do, and if she says yes, just
pull out a piece of paper and have her write it down. Then, WHILE SHE'S WRITING, say "And write
your number down there too." This is one of my favorite one-two combinations. Then, the next day,
send her an email and tell her that she should get together with you for a cup of tea and some
stimulating conversation. This is both easy and charming, and it works like, well.
.. a charm. And for
heaven's sake man, start getting the email and digits from the probably MILLIONS OF BABES that
you meet in the fashion industry and while promoting clubs. Heck, if you don't want them, send them
***SUCCESS STORY*** "I'm sure you'll find this interesting Dave. There's a girl I liked a
while back. Her and I dated for a few weeks, and then she started backing out. Less communication,
avoiding the "alone time" etc. Well, that confused the hell out of me because I didn't see it coming, nor
did I know what was going on in her head. I did get frustrated, but I dealt with it, and moved on. But
before I moved on, I told her very friendly, "I know you don't want to continue dating, but you know
that we're still friends.
.. " So we had a nice talk and stuck to friendship. Still wondering why it broke