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Class Notes 17:53 Self-Disclosure       Self-Disclosure - the act of making yourself known to another person, showing  yourself in such a way that others can receive you. Self-disclosure is the fundamental and essential relationship building  technique. It is not the case that a statement we make to someone else is disclosive or  not disclosive- there is a degree if disclosivness: from mildly to powerfully  disclosive. The receiver is the one who decides how disclosive it is. The self is the content- it has to be about you. It should be intentional- I have to willingly choose to show whatever  information this is with you. It should not be the answer to a question- it has to be something that I chose  with freewill to disclose to someone else. Disclosure is a commodity that only you own and you choose to give it to  somebody. It should be addressed- you have to have a specific audience in mind for  whatever it is you are revealing. It should be honest? Self-disclosure it about building trust, but trust can be built on lies. You have to reveal something that people don't already know- you can't say  my eyes are blue- people can already see that, so you're not disclosing  anything. It should contain otherwise unavailable information. Studies used to say that women self-disclosed more than men, but today this  is no longer true. It gains its intimate nature from the context in which it is expressed  Principles Self-disclosure should move in small steps Disclosure moves from impersonal to intimate
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Self-disclosure is reciprocal- when you disclose something to someone,  they're highly likely to disclose something back to you. Social exchange theory- theory of human social interaction that is built on an  economic metaphor. What is says is that we, mostly subconsciously, keep a  ledger in our heads to keep track of the exchanges going on in our  relationships. Self-disclosure involves risk- people will take the things you tell them and save  them up like ammunition to get back at you later. It always involves trust- you take the risk of disclosure because you trust  someone. White lie Thought to be a beneficial lie because your lying to protect the other person  and not to hurt their feelings. There is no self-serving motive for telling this lie. 4 quadrants
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This note was uploaded on 10/05/2010 for the course CMST CMST 1150 taught by Professor K.filbel during the Spring '10 term at LSU.

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