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Unformatted text preview: How does your view of love shape your personality? How is your personality shaped by your view of love? Reflect back on your Myers-Briggs results and include the results in your post (example: INTJ). A song tells us that love is a many-splendored thing. We do not always think in an accurate way about love. One of the incorrect and irrational attitudes we tend to have is that love is merely a mystical feeling, a mysterious power that takes over; and when it comes, we fall into it, helpless to control it. We are prone to think that it can vanish as mysteriously as it came and that we are helpless to prevent its leaving. We need to think of love as a way to treat other people, rather than as something that happens to us; then we will begin to have power over our loving. I t helps if we think of a person as being loving, or if we think of one as either having ability to express love or lacking this ability. This ability begins in childhood, in the loving care of a mothers arms. The more love we give a child in his younger years, the more ability he will have to give love throughout his adulthood. When parents give love to a child, they are helping him develop loveability. One who receives insufficient love may become retarded in his physical growth and his personality development. He may become emotionally and physically ill. One of the important reasons for giving an abundance of love to a child is that it helps him develop self-esteemappreciation, respect, and love for himself. And the more fondness one has for himself, the more able he is to give love to others. The selfish person isnt the one who loves himself; it is the one who has negative feelings about himself, who is self-centered, who is focusing on himself, trying to overcome his misgivings about himself. One who is at war with himself does not have peace of mind; he has inner conflict. If we can help a child develop self-love, then he is likely to be free from inner conflict and free to give kindness and love to others. In one study recently, people were asked to indicate what they loved. Ninety-two percent said they loved children, 86 percent said they loved God, and 66 percent said they loved animals, but only 33 percent said they loved themselves. We need to stop thinking that it is wrong for a person to love himself. The Bible doesnt say, Love thy neighbour instead of thyself; it says, Love thy neighbour as thyself. ( Matt. 22:39 . I talics added.) Many persons have not grown up in loving families; they still can learn to love, however, by learning what a loving person does and by making an effort to do those things. Dr. Erich Frohm, in his book The Art of Loving (New York: Harper & Row, 1956), defines and explains what a loving person does. A loving person cares about the loved one. Parents who really love their children take good care of them. A person who says, I love flowers, but who doesnt water and cultivate his flowers, really is not loving his own flowers. A person who doesnt water and cultivate his flowers, really is not loving his own flowers....
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