Midterm 2 Review Sheet S09

Midterm 2 Review Sheet S09 - Human Sexuality Midterm 2...

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Unformatted text preview: Human Sexuality Midterm 2 Review Sheet Communication in Sexual Behavior (Chapter 7) Listening (Techniques for Effective): Steps to Effective Listening  Maintain Eye Contact  Be an Active Listener  Feedback – Immediate – Honest – Caring (not “Brutal”)  Paraphrasing Techniques of Good Communication  Examining Your Internal Agenda  Choosing a Good Time & Place  Being a Good Listener  Metacommunication: talking about talking  Positive Messages  “I” Messages “I” messages  How To: – Only About Your Own Thoughts & Feelings – No Disguised “You” Message – Be Courageous – Practice  Example: “I’m really angry because you stayed out last night and didn’t call me.” Techniques for: starting to talk about sex, finding out what your partner wants, disclosing what you want, and saying what you don’t want. Getting Started Talking about Sex: What’s a good way to open-up a conversation about sex?  Say that it is difficult to talk about  Ask if your partner wants to talk about sex  Talk about your previous sexual partners Find Out What S/he Wants & Likes  Self Disclosure Discuss Preferences  Giving Permission Saying What You Don’t Like/Want  Be Clear  Focus on Improving Relations  Choose the Right Time & Place  Praise as Well  Go Slow  Use “I” Messages  Use a Clear “No” When Necessary Reveal Your Desires  Know what you like  Make Specific Requests  Use “I” Messages Love & Attachment (Chapter 7) Characteristics of Friends & Lovers Friend: Trust, acceptance, confiding, understanding, enjoyment Lover: That plus passion and caring. Weak Lovers  yelled at one another  made less eye contact  didn’t hold hands  didn’t listen to one another Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love & Lee’s Love Styles Types of Love Passionate:  Romantic love or infatuation  Intense feelings  Early in relationship  Often short-lived Companionate:  Less intense  Friendly affection/deep attachment  Less exciting (but rich and meaningful) 3 Dimensions of Love: A Theory According to Sternberg (’86, ’88) Passion: Motivational component  Stimulation & pleasure Intimacy:  Emotional component  Bonding, warmth, sharing Commitment:  Cognitive component  Decision to maintain Sternberg’s Triangle Theory  Variations in components yield different kinds of love  intimacy alone = friendship  passion alone = infatuation  commitment alone = empty love Relationship Development: Typical Adult Pattern  Passion builds then fades  Intimacy & Commitment continue to build Attachment & Internal Working Models (definitions & relationship of primary and romantic attachments) Attachment is the relationship bond that develops between an infant and his/her primary...
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This note was uploaded on 10/25/2010 for the course HDE 12 taught by Professor Reitan during the Fall '08 term at UC Davis.

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