exam2 - Interdependency Rely on each other Social exchange...

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Interdependency Rely on each other Social exchange : the mutual exchange of desirable rewards with others. Necessary for successful relationships Interdependence theory : The outcome of an interaction is its net profit or loss. Adding up all the rewards and costs that result Reward: anything within an interaction that is desirable and welcome an that brings enjoyment or fulfillment to the recipient Cost: punishing, undesirable experiences Outcome = rewards- costs Comparison level (CL) : what we expect and feel we deserve in our dealings with others. CLs are based on our past experiences and they fluctuate along with the outcomes we receive. If you come to expect something, your CL is higher Outcomes - CL = satisfaction/ dissatisfaction People who have a history of highly rewarding partnerships are likely to have high CLs, people who have a history of troublesome relationships most likely have a low CL Comparison level for alternatives (CLalt) : the outcomes we think we can get elsewhere. The lowest level of outcomes we will accept from our current partners Outcomes - CLalt = dependence/ independence Includes both costs of leaving and the rewards offered by others Investments: the things we lose when the relationship ends Satisfaction and independence are unrelated Your perceptions determine CL and CLalt: self-concept, past experiences, etc. In relationships, we want to: Gain positive outcomes: appetitive motivation Avoid negative outcomes: aversive motivation Rewards need to outnumber costs by at least 5 to 1 to remain satisfied Affective forecasting: predicting our emotions. In reality, people are bat at this Rewards and costs over time: CLs may increase because we expect certain things CLalts have increased in our culture over time because women have entered the workforce and therefore they have the financial resources that make it easier to leave unhappy relationships. People travel more so options are more diverse. Di- vorce is more socially acceptable Costs are more influential because bad is stronger than good. Negative is more important than positive Marital satisfaction: steadily declines. Outcomes stay the same, but CL rises - shrinks satisfaction Lack of effort Interdependency is a magnifying glass- makes you more aware of bad habits Access to weaponry- know specific things that make partner mad Unrealistic expectations: don’t assume that having kids will bring you closer togeth- er
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Unwelcome surprises Disillusionment: I you have unrealistically high expectations, you get disappointed quickly People who marry with the highest expectations are generally the least happy spouses a few years later Study found that most people who got divorced knew the complaints they had about their spouses before they got married, but marriage made these prob- lems more pronounced and obnoxious Exchange relationship : people expect repayment of any benefits that are provided
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