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Unformatted text preview: ptual basis for transition from passionate Conceptual to companionate love to Lee’s styles of loving Romantic (Eros): physical beauty, Romantic tactile pleasure tactile Game-playing (ludus): fun, casual, Game-playing “conquests” “conquests” Possessive (mania) : obsessive, Possessive jealous, roller- coaster ups & downs jealous, Companionate (storage) slow to Companionate develop, enduring; peaceful & quiet develop, Altruistic (agape): selfless, caring, Altruistic compassionate; no expectation of reciprocation reciprocation Lee’s styles of loving Lee’s contd Pragmatic (pragma): rational, practical; Pragmatic shared interests, mutual satisfaction shared Research is limited Eros & agape had + correlation with Eros satisfaction at all agesLudus had – correlation correlation Storge had + correlation only for Storge couples with children at home Mania & pragma unrelated Falling in love why and with whom Falling
The chemistry of love - neurotransmitters in the brain similar to amphetamine amphetamine norepinephrine norepinephrine dopamine dopamine phenylethylamine (PEA) phenylethylamine -Body builds tolerance to PEA – diminished -Body giddiness & euphoria - Endorphins may be responsible for deeper Endorphins attachment: produce sence of tranquility, security security - loss or potential loss for loved one may be similar to drug withdrawal similar Proximity Familiarity breeds liking; mere exposure effect - Familiarity breeds predictability – greater Familiarity comfort comfort - Greater proximity often reflects share interest Similarity - Share similar interests & activities - Confirm own views & experiences - Supportive of values & beliefs
- Reciprocity When someone shows they like us, we When tend to like them back tend - Positive reactions flattery, compliments, Positive atte...
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