E X E R C I S E 3.2 Nonattending
Ask a friend to have a conversation with you. Videotape it if you can. After a minute or
two of talking, purposefully withdraw your attention. You might look away, look at your
watch, cross your arms, or tap your foot. Notice what happens to the conversation. If you
videotaped the conversation, watch the video together. Ask your friend what it felt like
when you stopped attending.
So, I asked my close friend to tell me what’s going on between him and his girlfriend,
and I asked my other friend to record us. As the conversation started we were sitting
across each other @ restaurant table. I listened closely to him and looked right at him, but
after few minutes I started messing with my phone and he stopped for a moment. And
after that, his conversation went little slow and he stopped telling me the story. Then I
confronted to him that this was a test, he stated to me that he felt ignored and
E X E R C I S E 3.5
Mirror, Mirror, on the Wall
Spend 5 minutes in front of a video camera acquainting yourself with the subtleties of
your facial expressions. If you do not have access to a video camera, use a mirror.
Relax your face completely, noting what your face looks and feels like when you are
completely at rest. See how it looks and feels when you are happy, when you are
unhappy, when you want to look inquisitive, or show disapproval. Record in your journal
what you learned by observing your facial expressions.
Through this exercise I learned how people’s emotions shows up on one’s face, either by
the facial expression or eyes movements. As a model, I have ad a photo shoot where I
had to do bunch of emotional faces to capture the image, then all the different facial
expression was combined into one image making it a collage. I saw how person’s facial
expression tells one a whole story.
E X E R C I S E 3.8
Practice saying the following sentences with different tones, speed, emphasis, and other
paralinguistic cues. Demonstrate how the same words can convey different meanings.
Are there any other solutions to this problem?
This sentence could come across
and demanding. But it could also convey as seeking help or feeling helpless
Tomorrow is Christmas. –
This sentence is mostly read as excitement and joyful. But for
some it could be stressful, thinking that the holiday is tomorrow and there are things that
need to be done and not enough time.
Mrs. Jorgensen wants me to come to school tomorrow morning at 7 A.M. –
This could be
very nerve racking, knowing that a person (child) could get in trouble is parent finds out
something. OR it could be an excitement due to child’s good doings in school.
E X E R C I S E 3.13