Gen Psych Lecture 24

Gen Psych Lecture 24 - Mirroring is a basic function of a...

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Psychoanalysis (cont'd) Heinz Kohut (1913-1981) Major idea: child needs deep mirroring from caretaker Mirroring is the process of: AFFIRMING DESCRIBING EXPLORING ELABORATING What the child is feeling and undergoing. Example: Child looks sad. "What is the matter?" [exploring] Parent says: "You look unhappy." [describing] Child says: "Oh, it's school." Parent says: "What's the matter? Did something go wrong?" [exploring, affirming] And continues. Parent should never contradict what the child is feeling. The child is feeling the truth. These are real emotions. Pushing them down leads to depression, trauma, drug addiction, etc. A typical phrase that a parent uses to contradict a child is to say: "You always…. ."
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Unformatted text preview: Mirroring is a basic function of a good parent. A child needs mirroring as much as it needs food. Mirroring is like sunlight to a plant. Growth is impossible without mirroring. Remember: Mirroring affirms the child not the parent. All religious founders, Jesus Christ, Buddha, Moses, Lao Tsu, etc. begin their religious life by going first into the desert. The desert represents the place where there are no social laws, no rules, - i.e., no false self. The desert represents true self . In the desert, the religious founder has one task: Facing the internal object relations. These are described as demons, etc. Religion Lecture 24 Monday, December 07, 2009 4:39 PM Gen Psych Page 1...
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