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Unformatted text preview: RAPPORT 1. Establishing the Conversational Framework 2. Active Listening 3. Showing Empathy 4. Captioning 5. Using her Trance Words 6. Verbally Pacing her Reality 7. Demonstrating Cool Vulnerability 8. Using Indirect Complements 9. Dealing with Awkward Silences 10.Using Cold Reading Techniques 11.Matching and Mirroring 12.Potential Problems in Rapport-Building 13.Phase-Shifting to Amplify After opening, attracting, and qualifying the girl, the next step is to develop RAPPORT with her. Rapport is a sense of connection and understanding with another person. This connection comes from a bond of commonality. In other words, when people are like each other, they tend to LIKE each other. Developing rapport in a pick-up or seduction is important. If all you do is just attract and qualify a woman, shell like you, but she wont feel a connection to you. As soon as youre not around shell go out of state and the effect you created will drop back to zero. If you want a LASTING connection, or enough of one that she remembers you when you call, you need to develop some rapport. You want the woman to be thinking Hes just like me or We have so much in common or He understands me. Also, rapport builds COMFORT. Comfort is essential to getting a woman to give you her phone number, a kiss, or a wild night of furniture-destroying sex. A woman generally needs to feel comfortable with you (at different levels of course) before shell do any of these things. Guys who have trouble getting women are usually very good at building rapport, but not very good at generating attraction. Nice guys and their rapport-building expertise are good at instilling COMFORT in a woman, and thats why she views them as just friends. Theyre all comfort, no attraction. In basic terms: All rapport + no attraction gets you slotted in the friends category. All attraction + no rapport gets you slotted in the lover or one-night stand category (IF the woman even has that category at all; she may NEED rapport before having sex). Or if youre in a bar or club she may just see her being into you as a club thing. A combination of both attraction + rapport has the woman seeing you as a potential boyfriend, which gives you more power and more options on where you want to take things. Therefore I personally recommend that guys build at least a small level of rapport with a woman theyre interested inafter attracting her....
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