CHAPTER 7 - CHAPTER 7 (pg. 173-187) The personal side of...

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CHAPTER 7 (pg. 173-187) • The personal side of the gender drama - 5 Themes of masculinity: 1. Don’t be female—sensitivity & vulnerability make you a sissy/wimp; be tough 2. Be successful—sports/activities (training & winning) lead to status in profession; being a good provider is the primary requirement for manhood 3. Be aggressive—aggression & dominance encouraged in boys, told not to run from confrontation (linked to violence against women) 4. Be sexual—men should be interested in sex all the time, any time; the more partners, the more of a stud he is 5. Be self-reliant—a “real man” doesn’t need others, particularly women; men are expected to be emotionally controlled, not let feelings control them, & not to need others 6. Embody and transcend traditional views of masculinity (newly emerged)— simultaneously be a “real man” and defy traditional views of men by being sensitive and egalitarian - Some counselors believe that men’s striving to live up to social ideals of masculinity has produced an epidemic of hidden male depression; many depressed men are unwilling to seek help - 5 Themes of femininity: 1. Appearance still counts—to be desirable, you’re urged to be pretty, slim, & well dressed 2. Be sensitive & caring—feel pressure to be nice, deferential, and helpful in general; focus on pleasing others 3. Negative treatment by others—some say women are treated better than men (free drinks, get meals paid for, cry way out of a ticket), however these don’t compensate for significant disadvantages (more subjected to sexual assault, more likely to live in poverty, more likely to face job discrimination); girls engage in social aggression 4. Be superwoman—it’s enough to be just a homemaker & mother or to just have a career 5. There is no single meaning of feminine anymore—criticized regardless
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EHRENREICH: THE HEARTS OF MEN -in the 50s/60s men didn’t just marry out of love—marriage, and within that the breadwinner role, was the only normal state for adult males starting at age 23 -men who rejected the provider role were simply afraid of the responsibilities involved -maturity itself required the predictable, sober ingredients of wisdom, responsibility, empathy, heterosexuality and a “sense of function” -thus a woman is immature if she wants to be married but doesn’t want to do housework, and a man would be immature if he shirked the breadwinner role. -adult masculinity was indistinguishable from the bread-winner then it followed that a male who failed to achieve this role was either not fully adult or fully masculine. -american literature is traced with male immaturity: “psychic immaturity because one of the signs of an undeveloped personality is the failure to recognize that serious personal and social problems cannot be solves by running away from them” -only women writers had been exempt from this psychic immaturity because it was so much harder for them to bail on their responsibilities and walk out. -ultimate reason why man would not just walk out is because taint of homosexuality
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