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Unformatted text preview: Chapter 6 Activity 4 - Stages of Relationships Purpose: To understand the stages of relationships and correlate specific behaviors and words to stages of relationships. Instructions: 1. Choose a relationship that has ended. Can you identify behaviors that fit the characteristics of each stage? Yes 2. For each stage, list some behaviors that “prove” you were in that stage. Initiating-Flirting, met at a bar and laughed a lot having a very pleasant time. Experimenting-We started dating, typical movies and dinner. Getting to know each other and talking about friends that we had in common and work. Intensifying-He invited me to meet his friends and eventually his family, he started offering to take me to the dentist and drive me to work in the snow. Integrating-We began hanging out almost daily and talked about plans to move in together. We also had dreams of having a baby together. Bonding-Both of our families knew that we were together by this point and we talked about getting married but I was technically still married although separated for a couple of years at that point..we knew we had to wait until my paperwork was settled. Differentiating-He started hanging out with his friends a lot, I was fine with it because I have my own friends and hobbies however, this started become an extremely frequent event. Circumscribing-I wanted to talk about why he was spending so much time at his friends house, if there was something wrong, or why he wasn't talking to me and he didn't want to talk. He didn't think there was a problem because he was still too far into partying I guess. Once this problem arose and he was unwilling to deal with it we came to stagnation. Stagnating-We were still together and I was hopeful that he would come around if I left the issue alone and waited for him, but it just got worse. He wouldn't talk with me and didn't change when I told him that it bothered me, the more I spoke, the more he was stubborn. Avoiding-He didn't want to talk, I was feeling as though he didn't care and his friends were more important than me, so I began avoiding him the same as he was doing to me. Terminating-We played the power struggle game on and off for a long time until I decided to end it. I think we both wanted it to work but I feel that he was unwilling to even communicate to find a compromise and I refused to be a doormat or settle for second to best....
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This note was uploaded on 05/16/2011 for the course COMM 101 taught by Professor Harjitdosanght during the Spring '11 term at Pierce College.
- Spring '11