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Comm 10 Week 10 Notes - AttentiveSilence i.

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- Attentive Silence i. Use silence to free the speaker up: feel, think, express him or herself ii. Listeners talk too much—better is a silent responsiveness because  the other person can’t say what he or she wants if you’re mouth is  always going iii. Silence gives the speaker time to think about what to say iv. Space to go deeper into what the other is saying v. Allows the speaker to go at his or her own pace vi. Gives them time to deal with ambivalence of sharing vii. Time to continue and at what depth viii. Silence can nudge people to go on—talk more because people  uncomfortable with silence ix. During silence, it is not that nothing is going on because during  silence a good listener is still listening with body, posture, observing  the other person, observing the nonverbal  x. Thinking about what is being communicated xi. Pondering what has been said xii. Pondering what other person is feeling xiii. What your response might be xiv. Time to keep silent and a time to speak xv. Good listeners can do both xvi. Excessive silence hinders good communication xvii. Rarely possible to listen for a long time without some sort of response  because mind soon dulls, eyes glaze over, not with speaker anymore xviii. Also say that there are other ways in which silence can be important  xix. Silence important part of intimacy xx. Basking in others affection, words just get in the way
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xxi. Silence of intimacy  xxii. Positive form of communication  Reflecting skills :  involve reflecting back on what has been communicated to you;  reflect back to the speaker, especially powerful tool is the paraphrase—paraphrase  what has been said to make sure you understand, can build rapport with the other  person, can build trust, verbal technique (State what other has said in fewer and your  own words) paraphrasing makes the person feel validated  - After paraphrase add your own two sense; add on what the person has  paraphrased - With reflecting comes understanding then a reply and then an actual  conversation o Perceived Privateness : know who your audience is; who is receiving your messages Often times we gear our messages based upon who is receive the message Treat same message differently for different receivers Perceiving who is listening to your communication and who is not  B. Additional variables involved in interpersonal communication o Stage-dramaturgy : constantly playing roles in life, and play these roles on different stages Now in role of student, role of sun or daughter, role of employee Play these roles more or less well : can be competent, confident or blow it and look like a fool When on a public stage, we tend to communicate more formally, more
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This note was uploaded on 08/11/2011 for the course COMM 10 taught by Professor Suman during the Spring '08 term at UCLA.

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Comm 10 Week 10 Notes - AttentiveSilence i.

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