Relational+Competence

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Relational Competence Chapter 5
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event:http://tvgorge.com/shows/how-i-met- your-mother/season-5/the-sexless- innkeeper/
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What are relational messages? Nature of relational messages Content messages Relational messages Sending relational messages Often sent unconsciously Relational messages and relational definitions Relationships as culture Relationships as contracts
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Themes of Relational Messages Sending dominance messages One-up, one-down, one-across Indicating emotional tone Emotional arousal and composure Showing similarity Attraction and credibility Defining episodes Formality
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Themes of Relational Messages, cont. Indicating intimacy Affection-hostility Depth-superficiality Inclusion-exclusion Intensity of involvement
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Influential Relational Messages Confirming and disconfirming messages Paradoxes Paradoxical definitions Paradoxical injunctions Double binds Relationship must be intense and important
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Unformatted text preview: Victim must be presented with contradictory injunction No way of escape Diagnosing Communication Problems Meaning in Patterns Relational definitions mutually created Understanding through awareness of patterns of behavior Individual blame for relational progression generally unproductive Diagnosing Communication Problems, cont. Patterns vs. People Problem of punctuation Pattern types Complementary and symmetrical Evolving Spirals Unwanted repetition Unwanted Repetition Patterns (URPs) How to recognize and reduce: Change your behavior Use third parties Reaffirm your relational goals Try to spend more or less time with the other person Try changing an external situation Empathy and Perspective Taking Clip from How I Met Your Mother...
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