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Unformatted text preview: Self Competence: Self Competence: Establishing Individual Identities
Chapter 8 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NAExoSozc2c http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h8avPUxyno&feature http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zr9OiGvF0aM http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4gby0zfCYiA http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kzrEmX9AMcI&featu Identity
Identity Social identity Roles and rules borrowed from or dictated by society Personal identity Our own standards, roles, and rules that we choose above all else How does the “self” emerge from How does the “self” emerge from social roles and rules? The Self Concept Each person’s own subjective view or image of himself or herself as a person
Personality: How others see us Self as Narrative The narrative self: Primary materials we gather that eventually fashion our personal myth (from childhood) Early bonding experiences
Culturally available themes and images
Recurring motives and ideological strivings How does the “self” emerge from How does the “self” emerge from social roles and rules?, cont. Self as Cognitive Schema Selfschemata Life script Cognitive structures that organize and guide the processing of selfrelated information
A relatively fixed way of thinking about the self and relating to others Selfhandicapping strategy A technique for manufacturing protective excuses ahead of time to prevent possible failure in the future How does the “self” emerge from How does the “self” emerge from social roles and rules?, cont. Self as Behavioral Indicators Behavioral Self SelfPerception Theory Observing our own behavior ‘after the fact’ and then inferring what kind of a person we must be Self as Relational Achievement Relational Self Selfunderstanding we bring to a situation shapes the way we communicate, and in turn, the way we communicate can influence and revise what we think about ourselves The particular selfidentity we normally display in a given relationship Self as Internal Dialogues How do individual differences affect How do individual differences affect interpersonal communication? Communication Style The way one verbally, nonverbally, and paraverbally interacts to signal how literal meaning should be taken, interpreted, filtered, or understood Rhetorical Sensitivity Noble Selves Rhetorical reflectors Selfschema that emphasizes consistency above all else
Has no one self; presents a new self in each situation Rhetorical sensitivities Fluctuating and unsure; requires we think about the way we communicate before, during, and after we interact with others How do individual differences affect How do individual differences affect interpersonal communication?, cont. Communication Apprehension An individual’s fear or anxiety associated with either real or anticipated communication with another person or persons Intimacy Motivation Need for intimacy How do individual differences affect How do individual differences affect interpersonal communication?, cont. Attachment Styles Infants develop different styles of attachment depending upon the positive or negative nature of mental images and upbringing Secure style Fearful style Self and other are negative Preoccupied style Self and other are positive Self viewed as negative; other viewed as positive Dismissing style Denies need for attachment SelfDisclosure
SelfDisclosure What is SelfDisclosure
Flooded disclosures Any information you reveal about yourself that others are unlikely to discover from other sources
“Stranger on the Plane” phenomenon Premature disclosures Revealing intimate details too quickly Rules of SelfDisclosure
Rules of SelfDisclosure Rules of SelfDisclosure Make sure topic is interactionappropriate Begin with safe, nonrisky disclosures Disclose in small doses Reciprocate disclosures equally Be mindful of disclosure style Most important disclosures are reserved for intimate, ongoing relationships ComingOut and SelfDisclosure
ComingOut and SelfDisclosure ComingOut Coming out of the closet; outing A developmental process, selfaffirming rite Coming out to self and coming out to others Responding to coming out disclosures Realize you’re being told because you’re being trusted Reassure that the status of your relationship will not change Request for time to adjust and to get informed Responsibly control your feelings ...
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This note was uploaded on 09/05/2011 for the course COMM 201 taught by Professor Nagy during the Spring '11 term at Rutgers.
- Spring '11