Study Guide Exam # 3
Characteristics of passionate love:
Also known as romantic love or infatuation, intense
psychological feelings, generalized physiological arousal, strong sexual desire; avoid
conflict, feelings of completeness, short-lived.
Three components of Sternberg’s theory of love:
the motivational component that fuels romantic feelings, physical
attraction, and desire for sexual interaction. Passion instills a deep desire to be
united with the loved one. In a sense, passion is like an addiction, because its
capacity to provide intense stimulation and pleasure can exert a powerful craving
in a person.
Passion tends to develop rapidly and intensely in the early stages of a love
relationship and then declines as the relationship progresses. Intimacy and
commitment continue to build gradually over time, but at different rates.
His theory provides a conceptual basis for the transition from passionate to
companionate love. Passionate love, consisting of romantic feelings and
physical attraction, peaks early and quickly subsides. However, as it
declines, couples experience a growth in both intimacy and commitment
as they are in companionate love.
the emotional component of love that encompasses the sense of being
bonded with another person. It includes feelings of warmth, sharing, and
emotional closeness. Intimacy also embraces a willingness to help the other and
openness to sharing private thoughts and feelings.
the thinking or cognitive aspect of love. IT refers to the conscious
decision to love another and to maintain a relationship over time despite
difficulties that may arise.
having all three aspects of the triangle (intimacy, passion and
commitment) in a relationship, no couple spends all their time in consummate love!
Mere exposure effect:
when we are repeatedly exposed to unfamiliar things, such as
human faces, music, works of art, etc, our liking for such stimuli increases. This also
explains why we are attracted to people in close proximity, or geographic nearness, to us.
same school, work, churches, and geographic nearness.
.. people we see
frequently. Greater proximity often reflects shared interests. Familiarity breeds
predictability which leads to greater comfort.
when we receive expressions of liking or loving, we tend to respond in
kind. (Someone likes us, so we like them back because it feels good)
Results of Buss’s cross-cultural study on sex differences in partner preferences
Provided strong evidence that men worldwide place greater value than women do
on mates who are both young and physically attracted. Subjects from 37 samples
drawn from Africa, Asia, Europe, North and South America, and New Zealand
were asked to rate the importance of a wide range of personal attributes in
potential mates. These attributes included dependability, attractiveness, age, good
financial prospects, intelligence, sociability and chastity. Without exception, men
in all the surveyed cultures placed greater emphasis on a potential mate’s youth