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What theory of motivation fits sexual motivation?
Physiological drives, drive-reduction and homeostasis?
“Optimal arousal”? (Not drive reduction but curiosity)
A glimpse at brain anatomy: rats, cats, chimps and us (p. 71 at Fig. 6.5 -
shows brain comparisons)
Social Rejection & the Need to Belong (Moving Images, Seg. 25, Personality)
20% of the kids are at the bottom of the social ladder. (Michael
: The Emotional Lives of Boys
1. Other kids let them know that they’re at the bottom (which
reassures the other 80% that they’re
at the bottom).
2. Rejected children need protection.
The only way to deal with social rejection is having at least one friend
Infants seek out a companion as soon as they’re able to crawl.
By age 3, children can talk about it.
By the approach of puberty (age 12), children begin to separate
from their parents; the peer group begins to offer alternatives to
Ambitious parents want more than one.
Though this is not a course in theology or philosophy, remember that the roots
of modern scientific psychology lie in philosophical and theological
psychology, as well as in biology.
Let’s go back to those roots for just a
moment. Let’s spend a moment thinking about the need to belong and the
phenomenon of “attraction.” We can begin with a very theoretical question
which is bigger in scope than the question of why Romeo fell in love with
Juliette or why any two individuals might fall in love: Why did God bother to
create the Universe?
Before the beginning, God was alone. “In the beginning God created the
heavens and the earth. The earth was a formless void, there was darkness
over the deep…” (Genesis, 1:1-2) According to abrahamic traditions,
before the beginning of the Universe, God was alone.
What else do the abrahamic traditions tell us about God? The Apostle John
wrote: “Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God; and everyone
that loves is born of God, and knows God. He that loves not, knows not
God; for God is
love.” (1 John 4: 7-9)
St. Thomas Aquinas,
: it is the nature of love to seek
out something to love; for love itself is not complete without the beloved;
and this is why God created the Universe, the infinite “Other”: because it
is in the nature of love to direct itself toward the beloved. In his aloneness,
God imagined the beloved. And this is what called forth the Universe. And
when the Universe had emerged, “God saw that it was good…. And so it