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Unformatted text preview: sex. The cave man of the stories is a sadist of a type, and
one generally approved of, at least in theory. A little of sadism is shown in the delight in pinching and biting
so often seen; and the expression "I'd like to eat you up" has a playful sadism in it.
The opposite of sadism is masochism. This is a delight in being roughly used, in being the victim of
aggression. The typical female is supposed to rejoice in the power and strength of the male as exerted on her.
The admiration women often give to the uncouthly strong, their praise of virility, is masochistic in its origin.
The desire of the peasant woman to be beaten as a mark of man's love is supposed to be masochistic, a
pleasure in pain, which is held to be a primitive female reaction.
Sex psychopathology discloses innumerable cases where extreme sadism and masochism exist in both sexes;
that is, not only males but females are sadistic, and so not only females but males are masochistic.
Undoubtedly in minor degree both qualities express themselves in male and female; undoubtedly the male is
more frequently a sadist than is the female. Though the majority of women may thrill in the strength and
power of the lover, there are relatively few American women who will tolerate real roughness or cruelty. As a
matter of fact the basic feelings in sex love, aside from the sexual urge itself, are tenderness and admiration.
Naturally men desire to protect, and this becomes part of their tenderness; they admire and love the beauty of
women and are attracted by the essential (or supposed essential) feminine qualities. And as naturally women
desire to be protected; this enhances their tenderness, and their admiration is elicited by the peculiar male
characters of strength, hardihood and aggressiveness, as well as by beauty and human qualities generally.
Though the love of conquest is a part of sex feeling, it is neither male nor female, but is that feeling of
superiority and power so longed for in all relations. Men like to conquer the proud, reserved, haugh...
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This note was uploaded on 09/26/2011 for the course PSYCHOLOGY 110 taught by Professor Kannan during the Spring '11 term at Anna University Chennai - Regional Office, Coimbatore.
- Spring '11