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Unformatted text preview: ndulgence, i. e., indulgence of the passing desires, follows the idealism
of adolescence. Youth sows its wild oats. Then the steadying purposes appear partly because the pleasure of
indulgence passes. Marriage, responsibility, straining effort mark the passing of ten or a dozen years; then in
middle life, and often before, things get flat and without savor, monotony creeps in and a curiosity as to the
possibilities of pleasure formerly experienced is awakened. (I believe that most of the sexual unfaithfulness in
men and women over thirty springs not from passion but from curiosity.)
There occurs a dangerous age in the late thirties and early forties, one in which self-indulgence makes itself
clamorous. The monotony of labor, the fatigue of inhibition make themselves felt, and at this time men (and
women) need to add relaxation and pleasure of a legitimate kind. Golf, the fishing trip, games of all kinds;
legitimate excitement which need not be inhibited is necessary. This need of excitement without inhibition is
behind most of the gambling and card playing; it explains the extraordinary attraction of the detective story
and the thrilling movies; it gives great social value to the prize fight and the ball game where you may see the
staid and the sober giving vent to an excitement that, may fatigue them for a time but which clears the way for
their next day's inhibitions.
Unfortunately too many mistake excitement for happiness. The forms of relief from inhibition--card playing,
sports, the theater, the thrilling story and the movie--grow to be habits and lose their exciting value. They can
give no permanent relief from the pain of repression; only a philosophy of life can do that. A philosophy of
life! One might write a few volumes on that (and there are so many great philosophers already on the market),
and yet such a philosophy would only state that strenuous purpose must alternate with quiet relaxation;
excitement is to be sought only at periods and never for any length of time; relief from inhibitions can only be
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This note was uploaded on 09/26/2011 for the course PSYCHOLOGY 110 taught by Professor Kannan during the Spring '11 term at Anna University Chennai - Regional Office, Coimbatore.
- Spring '11