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Unformatted text preview: ganizations and the council chambers of nations arises from a childish, egoistic seeking of superiority.
People enter into the most heated and sterile arguments, often coming to blows, if the course of conduct they
desire to have followed is modified or blocked. Even when secretly convinced that they are wrong, husbands
and wives will continue to insist on victory, for too often the domestic relationship is a struggle for leadership
and dominance rather than a partnership and a conference. Two heads are better than one when the
intelligence within the heads is of good grade and when the desire for superiority does not take trivial
directions. And the effect of yielding to the whims of children is to develop an irritable, domineering egoism
bent on having its own way, resisting reasonable compromise or correction. The greatest benefit of discipline
and above all of contact with equals to a child is in the effect on this phase of egoism, i. e., that cooperation
means compromise; to be reasonable implies listening with respect to others' plans and to accept better ways
of doing things, even if they have originated with others; in other ways the subordinating of trivial egoism.
The large families of other days offered the conflict of wills and its consequent lesson within the home; to-day
the solitary child, or the one whose brother or sister is three, four or five years younger or older must go into
the streets to obtain this discipline or else go without. The indulged have this form of inferior egoism more
than do those who have been roughly handled, and so it is more common in women of the better-to-do classes
and in men who have always exercised authority. It is of course found in what is known as the stubborn
person, --he whose will is law to himself and who seeks to make it law to others. Ordinarily the stubborn
person is merely a nuisance, but also, if he couples that stubbornness with intelligence and some especial
ability, he may reach great heights, though he is seldom popular.
A sub-form of having one's own...
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- Spring '11