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Unformatted text preview: other, that is, we are always concerned with the ego feeling, but in the one case the ego
feeling is narrow and in the other case it includes others as part of the ego. Lotze's observations on clothes
shows that we expend ego feeling in all directions, that we tend to be as tall as our top hats and as penetrating
as our walking sticks, that the man who has a club in his hand has a tactile sense to the very end of the club.
James in his marvelous chapter on the various selves points out that a man's interests and affections are his
selves, and that they enclose one another like the petals of a rose. We may speak of unipetalar selves, who
include only their own bodies in self-feeling; of bipetalar selves who include in it their families, and from CHAPTER XI. 93 there on we go to selves who include their work, their community, their nation, until we reach those very rare
souls whose petals cover all living things. So men extend their self-feeling, if ambitious, to their work, to their
achievements,--if paternal to their children; if domestic, to wife and home; if patriotic to the nation, etc.
Development lies in the extension of the self-feeling and in the increase of its intensity. But the obstacle lies
in the competitive feelings, in that dualism of man's nature that makes him yearn not only for fellowship, but
also for superiority. These desires are in eternal opposition, but are not necessarily antagonistic, any more than
are the thumb and the little finger as they meet in some task, any more than are excitation and inhibition.
Every function in our lives has its check and balance, and fellowship, yearning and superiority urge one
From the cradle to the grave, we desire fellowship as an addition to our gregarious feeling. We ask for
approval, for we expand under sympathy and contract under cold criticism. Nothing is so pleasant as
"appreciation," which means taking us at our own valuation or adding to it,, and there is no complaint so
common as, "They don't understand me," which merely means, "They blame me without understanding that I
really seek t...
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This note was uploaded on 09/26/2011 for the course PSYCHOLOGY 110 taught by Professor Kannan during the Spring '11 term at Anna University Chennai - Regional Office, Coimbatore.
- Spring '11