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counter feeling already well established.
Though typical in the mother, child relationship, tender feeling or love, exists in many other relationships. The
human family, with its close association, its inculcated unity of interests, in its highest form is based on the
tender feeling. The noble ideal of the brotherhood of man comes from an extension of the feeling found in
brothers. The brotherly feeling is emphasized, though the sisterly feeling is fully as strong, merely because the
male member of genus homo has been the articulate member, he has written and talked as if he, and not his
sister, were the important human personage. So fraternal feeling is tender feeling, existing between members
of the same family, or the love that we conceive ought to be present. Is such love instinctive, as is the maternal
love? If it is, that instinct is very much weaker, and hostile feeling, indifference, rivalry, may easily replace it.
We rarely conceive of a mortal world where so intense a love as that of the mother will be the common
feeling; all we dare hope for is a world in which there will be a fine fraternal feeling.
Fraternal feeling is born of association together, any task undertaken en masse, any living together under one
roof. Even when men sit down to eat at the same table, it tends to appear. So college life, the barracks, secret
orders, awaken it, but here, as always, while it links together the associated, it shuts out as non-fraternal those
What we call friendly feeling is a less vehement, more intellectualized form of tender feeling. It demands a
certain equality and a certain similarity in tastes, though some friendships are noted for the dissimilarity of the
friends. Friendship lives on reciprocal benefits, tangible or intangible, though sentimentalists may take
exception to this. Primary in it is the good opinion of the friends and interest in one another; we cannot be
friends with those who think we are foolish or mean or bad. We ALLOW a friend to say that we have acted
wrongly because we think he has our interest at heart, because he...
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This note was uploaded on 09/26/2011 for the course PSYCHOLOGY 110 taught by Professor Kannan during the Spring '11 term at Anna University Chennai - Regional Office, Coimbatore.
- Spring '11