Lecture 3 - Lecture 3 Identity(Connecting to Develop an Identity I Introduction a Language helps us i Create meaning ii Connect to build contexts and

Lecture 3: Identity (Connecting to Develop an Identity) I. Introduction a. Language helps us: i. Create meaning ii. Connect to build contexts and cultures iii. Develop our identity b. Success in building a high signal to noise ratio is aided by strong identity. II. Identity a. Basic Interpersonal Needs i. Each person, from birth on, strives to meet three basic interpersonal needs that are not negotiable ii. Inclusion – desire to be accepted and respected within some group/family iii. Control – desire to impact the environment to satisfy needs iv. Affection – desire to receive intimacy and civility from others b. Definition of Identity i. A subjective collection of your attitudes and beliefs about yourself built up over your life. ii. Goal: Build an identity to differentiate yourself from others iii. Identity is a self schema that is your own creation and always shifting. iv. Yet, it is relatively stable, particularly as we get older.