Prep Paper 3- reaching resolution

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Preparation Paper 3: Reaching Resolution According to the article, “Forgiveness, Apology, and Communicative Responses to Hurtful Events,” by Bachman and Guerrero (2006), victims were more likely to grant forgiveness and use direct strategies of integrative and distributive communication if he or she believed that the partner had sincerely apologized and less willing to use de-escalation and loyalty. When partners say and do hurtful things to one another, “the psychological hurt engendered by interpersonal events can be as acute and aversive as the physical pain of bodily injury, and it sometimes last far longer” (Bachman & Guerrero, 2006, p. 45). Therefore, forgiveness is critical in determining whether couples would like to repair their relationships. This study explores associations between forgiveness, different communicative responses to hurtful events, and perceived apologies from partner. There are six categories of hurtful episodes that can cause hurt feelings within romantic relationships including: criticism, betrayals, active disassociation, passive disassociation, teasing, and feeling unappreciated or taken for granted. The first hypothesis in this study suggested that the degree of forgiveness varies depending on the type of hurtful episode experienced. It is evident that the more severe the betrayal, the more difficult it is for victims to forgive their partners. According to McCullough’s model of interpersonal forgiveness, victims tend to use a natural protective tendency of fight or flight in response to getting hurt by their relational partners. While the fight tendency allows victims to retaliate and bring harm to the partner, the flight tendency involves the desire to avoid both psychological and personal contact with their partner. Forgiveness only occurs when the victim becomes motivated to actually approach the partner and repair the damage of the relationship. Whereas the second hypothesis propose that forgiveness associates positively with the victim’s reported use of relational repair strategies,
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integrative communication, and loyalty, the third hypothesis suggested that forgiveness associates negatively with the hurt individuals’ use of de-escalation, revenge, distributive communication, and active distancing. When an errant partner is seeking for forgiveness, the most effect strategy is to offer a sincere apology. Ultimately, the final hypothesis implies that the degree in which the errant partner is perceived to be sincerely sorry is positively associated with forgiveness. In this study, student recruiters were in charge of distributing questionnaires to a person in their social network who had recently experienced a hurtful event. Respondents were only qualified if they have been in a exclusive romantic relationship for a duration of two months at the time of the hurtful event. On the questionnaire, “a “hurtful event” was defined as anything a partner does or says that hurts the other partner’s feelings with some hurtful events being more
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