For seventeen years I had been brought up believing that there is a specific order
in which to live by.
This “order” came to a screeching halt and fast-forward when my
sister became pregnant without even completing the first step.
All of a sudden, my whole
family had to reinvent our system of living and reestablish our beliefs to fit this alteration
to the order into our lives.
Needless to say, I have come to accept the concept of teenage
pregnancy, or the process by which an underage woman becomes pregnant typically out
I used to hold conventional views of the condition, in which I pitied those
affected by it but never assumed that I would be personally exposed to it.
I used to think
that only a certain type of person unintentionally became pregnant as a teenager, and as
disinclined as I am to admit it, I subconsciously would look down on those type of
After all, the condition usually carries a social stigma, making it a topic of study
among psychologist and sociologists in order to uncover potential causes and possibly
limit the outcomes.
I used to assume that factors such as the media, family background
and environment, and deficit sexual education were prime causers of teen pregnancy.
wasn’t until I was personally affected by such a situation that I realized how ignorant I
had been and how much societal judgment influences the victims.
Though many people,
including federal and state officials, regard teen pregnancy as an epidemic sweeping
across the nation and search for means to prevent it; it will inevitably continue to spread,
the question is what to do once it occurs.
The way in which society judges a victim of teen pregnancy, before, during, and
after she becomes pregnant, and the way it judges those in relation to the victim both
significantly impact those involved.
Factors in which society considers when judging a
teen mother include her relationship status with the father, the publicity of her sexual
activity, and the perceived actions she will take concerning the pregnancy.
My sister was
almost seventeen years old when she conceived who is now my sixteen-month-old
nephew, and she no relationship whatsoever to speak of with the father of her son.
fact, the majority of children resulting from unplanned pregnancies are born to unmarried
mothers (Unplanned Pregnancies).
The paradox lies in the idea that while these teenagers
are becoming pregnant with male partners in which they have no commitment to, society
is more accepting of pregnancy and sexual activity when it occurs within a couple.
According to an article in Cosmo Girl
, the media and American public glorify unmarried
celebrity mothers such as Ashlee Simpson, Nicole Richie, Angelina Jolie, and Jessica
Nevertheless, American teenagers “have shorter relationships, and
consequently, more sexual partners over time,” increasing their chances of becoming
As a result of the evidence shown, I feel as though had my sister